Musings on my boy Magic

[gemy]

WE lost our Zoey gal a year ago Mothers Day. Magic had been doing quite well after the first week or so. I think because the boys knew just how sick she was that morning we took her to the vet for the very last time.

Now starting in the month of June, he has been laying by her crate quite often, sometimes in front of it, more often beside it with his nose angled into the crate. I suppose it is possible her smell is still there, despite multiple washings. But the fact it is still there, also tells you he is not the only one having a hard time letting go.

For me, I don't want to lose her memory, silly I know, I have pics, and videos, but that was her CRATE, hers alone. Just because she is not physically here, doesn't mean her crate needs to be put away.

We have the space for now, that it really isn't a problem per say. But I'm wondering if it would be better for Magic if I took it down. Razzle doesn't care at all, so it can't be smell, as Razzle has an amazing nose. It is prob memories for my senior boy.

But maybe soon in the next few months, I will be receiving a new young lass.... And I am thinking it might be best for all, if I pack up my courage along with her crate, and give her crate to our SPCA.

We have plenty of crates, gosh don't how we got em all, but we do have multiples of things. Different sized crates.

I just won't have a full size crate for the new one. Actually I need two. One for car, one for home or show.

[MandiesMom]

I understand not wanting to lose the memory and hanging onto the crate. It is sweet how Magic still lays by the crate. I am sure her scent is still there somehow. So sweet.

[Yorkiemom1]

I completely understand where you are coming from with this Gail....I am useless regarding this....I am toooo sentimental.....if it was me, I would be leaving the crate right where it is.....let poor Magic remember his lost friend, unless you see it is really beginning to effect him, with attitude, eating, activity, etc....He is just reminessing (sp?) times they spent together....with the arrival of the new little lady, after a fashion, then you may be in a better place emotionally, to remove her crate to another place....I couldnt go to the SPCA with it just yet....I have to do things in steps.....I still have precious little Hailees little bed with her favorite little stuffed toys that she always carried around with her when ever I had new puppies born....she always wanted to be a momma so badly.....she has her little bed under the whelping crates, at the foot of my bed.....I left it there, I just cant move it, especially with new borns in the house....this was a favorite time for my Hailee......I put her ashes/urn in the nursery, so she is with the babies when they get old enough to go to the nursery.....sorry....I got off the rails again......

[lisaly]

I think Magic just misses Zoey, crate or no crate. We can take away all of the physical things, but our heart feels what it feels. I think, for me, it's a great thing that I never let go of those loving feelings, no matter how much time passes. I'm probably not a good one to ask, because toys from my Rainbow Bridge babies, a beautiful. large collection of little Gund stuffed tops that show little evidence that my dogs really played with them, are still in my home. Just some of the collection stays out, even those two lonely years without a dog. I still have Ashley's blanket out and still haven't gotten rid of some things from Kiwi and Gracie. I am fully aware that they aren't physically with me, live in full reality, and I'm actually loving every single moment with Katie. Love and memories always remain, and I think Magic, like you and me, will always love and remember his loved one. He is one very special boy!

If you think it might make a difference, I'd suggest temporarily moving the crate to a place Magic doesn't go to. You are so in tune with his wants, desires, needs, and heart, and you'll know then for sure.

I, too, think of your beautiful Zoey. It is my hope that she running freely, has found my loved ones at The Rainbow Bridge, and also that she always makes you smile when you think of her. You are an outstanding mom and quite special.

[lisaly]

Originally Posted by Yorkiemom1

I completely understand where you are coming from with this Gail....I am useless regarding this....I am toooo sentimental.....if it was me, I would be leaving the crate right where it is.....let poor Magic remember his lost friend, unless you see it is really beginning to effect him, with attitude, eating, activity, etc....He is just reminessing (sp?) times they spent together....with the arrival of the new little lady, after a fashion, then you may be in a better place emotionally, to remove her crate to another place....I couldnt go to the SPCA with it just yet....I have to do things in steps.....I still have precious little Hailees little bed with her favorite little stuffed toys that she always carried around with her when ever I had new puppies born....she always wanted to be a momma so badly.....she has her little bed under the whelping crates, at the foot of my bed.....I left it there, I just cant move it, especially with new borns in the house....this was a favorite time for my Hailee......I put her ashes/urn in the nursery, so she is with the babies when they get old enough to go to the nursery.....sorry....I got off the rails again......

I was typing my post when this was written. If it brings you comfort, leave her things there as long as it brings you comfort. My classroom has wall to wall photos of my students over the 28 years that I've been there. Scattered among all of them are a few photos of my Rainbow Bridge babies, and they are there to stay. I have one Gund stuffed animal, the Boyton Little Monster, that my dogs loved so much that I bought twenty of them when they were closing it out at the Gund outlet. That sits on my desk. I am very sentimental, and these bring back great memories of a life filled with love with my girls.

I'm so sorry for your loss of Haillee. I can feel all of your love in your written word.

[red98vett]

Originally Posted by gemy

WE lost our Zoey gal a year ago Mothers Day. Magic had been doing quite well after the first week or so. I think because the boys knew just how sick she was that morning we took her to the vet for the very last time.

Now starting in the month of June, he has been laying by her crate quite often, sometimes in front of it, more often beside it with his nose angled into the crate. I suppose it is possible her smell is still there, despite multiple washings. But the fact it is still there, also tells you he is not the only one having a hard time letting go.

For me, I don't want to lose her memory, silly I know, I have pics, and videos, but that was her CRATE, hers alone. Just because she is not physically here, doesn't mean her crate needs to be put away.

We have the space for now, that it really isn't a problem per say. But I'm wondering if it would be better for Magic if I took it down. Razzle doesn't care at all, so it can't be smell, as Razzle has an amazing nose. It is prob memories for my senior boy.

But maybe soon in the next few months, I will be receiving a new young lass.... And I am thinking it might be best for all, if I pack up my courage along with her crate, and give her crate to our SPCA.

We have plenty of crates, gosh don't how we got em all, but we do have multiples of things. Different sized crates.

I just won't have a full size crate for the new one. Actually I need two. One for car, one for home or show.

I got a chill reading your first sentence - I am so sorry

[gemy]

Thank you V. YT members were so amazing in their support of myself and my family as we struggled to beat Zoey's cancer.

I will never, ever forget the support I received here, the information and advice.

YT is a very special place.

[Lisa and Pic]

Originally Posted by gemy

Thank you V. YT members were so amazing in their support of myself and my family as we struggled to beat Zoey's cancer.

I will never, ever forget the support I received here, the information and advice.

YT is a very special place.

Hugs to you and I so agree.