I am so sick of child abuse and neglect - YorkieTalk.com Forums

stewartdogs · 01-16-2007, 01:08 PM

I work for Child Protective Services and I am really having a hard month. I do ok for the most part, but every once in a while I start to get really overwhelmed with everything we see and deal with. We got a really bad case two weeks ago and I can't get the pictures of this baby out of my head. I am also so sick of methamphetamines that I could scream. Some days I feel like me, my husband and coworkers are the only freaking people in the world not using drugs! I also see humanity at its worst and that really effects me! I have to really watch myself or I become overwhelmed by such a negative veiw of the world. I have to really work at trusting people. Thank God for my furbabies at home. They help so much. I wouldn't make it without them.
Sorry, I just need to vent a little.

jencar98 · 01-16-2007, 01:15 PM

I have such sympathy for those of you that work in this field, it would have to be very disturbing and sad, so sad. For years I worked at our local school and have witnessed the effects of meth on families. I tell everyone - this is the worst drug I've ever known of for total destruction of a family, not just the user. The magnitude of the problem is overwhelming.

God bless you for your work in an area most couldn't handle!

JeanieK · 01-16-2007, 01:16 PM

I believe that your feelings are normal for people in your profession as well as police officers, ER Dr's etc. They see so much they begin to wonder if anyone is normal besides themselves and their coworkers, and they sometimes wonder about the coworkers.

God Bless you and all off those like you who work to keep our children safe.

red98vett · 01-16-2007, 01:16 PM

HUGS to you. That has to be the hardest job and must haunt you 24/7 - it would me.

those kids NEED you. You're they're link with compassion and all the best ....I hope that case has a happy ending but the sad thing is there are so many of them....I don't know how you cope on a day to day basis.

Lexi Rae · 01-16-2007, 01:18 PM

wow you must have a really hard job.. i dont know how you do it.. i give
you alot of credit. i know i wouldnt be able to do it... i would probably
really hurt those abusers if i got my hands on them... any abuser for that matter... im sorry your all stressed out.... try to block it out, i know i couldnt.
maybe talk about it like your doing, it might just help....

Brutus'mama · 01-16-2007, 01:20 PM

I can imagine how it would get to you. Only special people can do what you do.

Rockster's Mom · 01-16-2007, 01:34 PM

Oh, I am so sorry you having a rough time. Good Luck!!!

Zeus' Mom · 01-16-2007, 01:47 PM

I am so very sorry. Thank God for wonderful people like you who can do this type of work, my heart just couldn't handle it. Hang in there!

LunasMomma · 01-16-2007, 01:48 PM

Oh my goodness, that has to be so hard

People do the ugliest things to their children, it's sickening

Is there anything in place at work to help the caseworkers? Some kind of burnout prevention therapy or something? There should be, you all have such a stressful job and I can see how it could affect you negatively.

BIG hugs to you and thank you for defending the children

21sunshine · 01-16-2007, 02:01 PM

I work in for Felony Probation and Parole offices and before this worked in the prison. We deal with the House Arrest, Sex Offenders, and Drug Offenders. It is horrible. I get so frustrated and mad also. I am trying to finish school so I can get a more rewarding job. I have a hard time becuase so few of these people correct and redeem themselves, it is just a repeat thing for them and seeing the children and other people affected really gets to me. So I understand

kandy313 · 01-16-2007, 02:10 PM

i know how the drug problem can really get to you,i lost my husband because of drugs and he had 2 teenage boys that were also on drugs. i was the only one there not one drugs,and it bout drove me crazy. but i thank God for ppl like you that really try to help this sinking world.

Peters · 01-16-2007, 02:12 PM

but on the other hand people like you are helping make the world a better place! anyone who thinks it's more important to do drugs than care for their children shouldn't be allowed to have or keep their kids at all period!

marcerella02 · 01-16-2007, 05:34 PM

God Bless you for doing what you do... i can't imagine how hard your job is but children everywhere have you to thank for taking them out of a horrible situation.. Layla and I send a hug!

jrsygal37 · 01-16-2007, 05:50 PM

Hi Stewardog. I know what you're saying. My husband is a retired NY Police Officer and he has a hard time with all that he saw. It's a tough job and it's hard to stay soft in a job like that. You almost have to develop a cold heart to survive it. When I was younger I wanted to get involved with social work but I knew it wasn't something I could do. We have two boys adopted from overseas. Tried to go the adoption route here in the US but the laws are so in favor of rehabilitating the mother that we chose to go out of country. I couldn't imagine having a child come to me, my taking care of him/her and getting them through what they went through, only to have to hand them back so that mother could do it all over again to them. We live in Jersey and was told the mom had up to two years to get clean. That means we could have this baby with us for that long and then have to hand him/her back. I kept thinking "What about the child? To hell with the mother. She lost her rights when she chose to do what she did." Anyway, my hat is off to you. It's a tough job. Elaine

01-16-2007, 01:08 PM	#1
stewartdogs Yorkie Yakker Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Fort Worth, Texas Posts: 52	I am so sick of child abuse and neglect I work for Child Protective Services and I am really having a hard month. I do ok for the most part, but every once in a while I start to get really overwhelmed with everything we see and deal with. We got a really bad case two weeks ago and I can't get the pictures of this baby out of my head. I am also so sick of methamphetamines that I could scream. Some days I feel like me, my husband and coworkers are the only freaking people in the world not using drugs! I also see humanity at its worst and that really effects me! I have to really watch myself or I become overwhelmed by such a negative veiw of the world. I have to really work at trusting people. Thank God for my furbabies at home. They help so much. I wouldn't make it without them. Sorry, I just need to vent a little.

01-16-2007, 01:15 PM	#2
jencar98 Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Oklahoma Posts: 6,435 Blog Entries: 3	I have such sympathy for those of you that work in this field, it would have to be very disturbing and sad, so sad. For years I worked at our local school and have witnessed the effects of meth on families. I tell everyone - this is the worst drug I've ever known of for total destruction of a family, not just the user. The magnitude of the problem is overwhelming. God bless you for your work in an area most couldn't handle! __________________ ~Ruby, Reno, Razz, & Jack~

01-16-2007, 01:16 PM	#4
red98vett Yorkie Kisses are the Best! Donating Member Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: Houston TX Posts: 33,590 Blog Entries: 1	HUGS to you. That has to be the hardest job and must haunt you 24/7 - it would me. those kids NEED you. You're they're link with compassion and all the best ....I hope that case has a happy ending but the sad thing is there are so many of them....I don't know how you cope on a day to day basis. __________________ Villette, Chanel & Cheri www.DesignsByVillette.net Custom Address Labels and Note Cards using YOUR Photos! Just Click HERE!

01-16-2007, 01:18 PM	#5
Lexi Rae Gina, (Lexi's Mommy) Donating Member Join Date: May 2005 Location: LONG ISLAND,NY Posts: 10,455	wow you must have a really hard job.. i dont know how you do it.. i give you alot of credit. i know i wouldnt be able to do it... i would probably really hurt those abusers if i got my hands on them... any abuser for that matter... im sorry your all stressed out.... try to block it out, i know i couldnt. maybe talk about it like your doing, it might just help.... __________________ Gina & Lexi CLICK HERE for our Photo Album ...

01-16-2007, 01:20 PM	#6
Brutus'mama YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: NJ Posts: 1,767	I can imagine how it would get to you. Only special people can do what you do. __________________ ~Carolyn~ Brutus' Video Montage

01-16-2007, 01:16 PM	#3
JeanieK Donating YT 12K Club Member Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Council Bluffs Iowa Posts: 12,552	I believe that your feelings are normal for people in your profession as well as police officers, ER Dr's etc. They see so much they begin to wonder if anyone is normal besides themselves and their coworkers, and they sometimes wonder about the coworkers. God Bless you and all off those like you who work to keep our children safe.

01-16-2007, 01:34 PM	#7
Rockster's Mom Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Fort Worth, Texas Posts: 1,279	Oh, I am so sorry you having a rough time. Good Luck!!!

01-16-2007, 01:47 PM	#8
Zeus' Mom Enja's Mom too! Donating Member Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Raleigh, NC Posts: 2,765	I am so very sorry. Thank God for wonderful people like you who can do this type of work, my heart just couldn't handle it. Hang in there! __________________ Farrah, Zeus, Enja & Riley

01-16-2007, 01:48 PM	#9
LunasMomma Izzy's Momma Too! Donating Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Stuart, Florida Posts: 8,799	Oh my goodness, that has to be so hard People do the ugliest things to their children, it's sickening Is there anything in place at work to help the caseworkers? Some kind of burnout prevention therapy or something? There should be, you all have such a stressful job and I can see how it could affect you negatively. BIG hugs to you and thank you for defending the children __________________ Tracy, Mom to Izzy and Luna

01-16-2007, 02:01 PM	#10
21sunshine Yorkie Yakker Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: panama city Posts: 63	i understand I work in for Felony Probation and Parole offices and before this worked in the prison. We deal with the House Arrest, Sex Offenders, and Drug Offenders. It is horrible. I get so frustrated and mad also. I am trying to finish school so I can get a more rewarding job. I have a hard time becuase so few of these people correct and redeem themselves, it is just a repeat thing for them and seeing the children and other people affected really gets to me. So I understand

01-16-2007, 02:10 PM	#11
kandy313 Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: prestonsburg,ky Posts: 105	i know how the drug problem can really get to you,i lost my husband because of drugs and he had 2 teenage boys that were also on drugs. i was the only one there not one drugs,and it bout drove me crazy. but i thank God for ppl like you that really try to help this sinking world.

01-16-2007, 02:12 PM	#12
Peters YT 2000 Club Member Join Date: May 2006 Location: Alabama Posts: 2,225	but on the other hand people like you are helping make the world a better place! anyone who thinks it's more important to do drugs than care for their children shouldn't be allowed to have or keep their kids at all period! __________________ A pet's love is true right from the start, through good times and bad, like sharing one heart.

01-16-2007, 05:34 PM	#13
marcerella02 Loved by Layla Donating Member Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Canada Posts: 11,257	God Bless you for doing what you do... i can't imagine how hard your job is but children everywhere have you to thank for taking them out of a horrible situation.. Layla and I send a hug! __________________ http://misscanam.blogspot.com/ Layla 's Simon

01-16-2007, 05:50 PM	#14
jrsygal37 Donating YT 2000 Club Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Jersey Shore Posts: 3,370	Hi Stewardog. I know what you're saying. My husband is a retired NY Police Officer and he has a hard time with all that he saw. It's a tough job and it's hard to stay soft in a job like that. You almost have to develop a cold heart to survive it. When I was younger I wanted to get involved with social work but I knew it wasn't something I could do. We have two boys adopted from overseas. Tried to go the adoption route here in the US but the laws are so in favor of rehabilitating the mother that we chose to go out of country. I couldn't imagine having a child come to me, my taking care of him/her and getting them through what they went through, only to have to hand them back so that mother could do it all over again to them. We live in Jersey and was told the mom had up to two years to get clean. That means we could have this baby with us for that long and then have to hand him/her back. I kept thinking "What about the child? To hell with the mother. She lost her rights when she chose to do what she did." Anyway, my hat is off to you. It's a tough job. Elaine