I'm Pregnant... =/

[GORJESS]

Ok so I found out I'm pregnant 2 weeks ago. I'm 8 weeks today. I'm only 17. I have no idea what to do. I have been holding this in since I found out. I barely told the father on Sunday. I was avoiding telling him because I knew he would try to rush me in to getting an abortion. I don't believe in abortion and could never see myself getting one, but I also don't see myself being able to raise a baby on my own at my age. I feel so cornered right now because of the father. We talked about adoption but he said he can't live with himself knowing he has a kid out there, and I don't think I can either. I don't know what to do!

[Thorsmomma]

I will PM you.

[red98vett]

I had my 1st son at your age - STAY in school !! I did and graduated when he was 2 months old -

It's a huge huge responsibility - tell your parents and try NOT to be scared - you all need a solution to this and it involves more people than just you.

IF you really want this - it can happen ...but you need to look at it from ALL ANGELS - I missed out on alot by being a young mom - but it was the best thing that ever happened to me - I kind of grew up with my boys and we're super close - well worth all that I missed...but it's not for everyone. Your life is just starting - you're really an adult now - if you had dreams - you can still find them but you will always have to put your child first so think this thru very carefully and be open to all suggestions ....

GOOD LUCK !

[OLIVIA_KARHIS]

Originally Posted by GORJESS

Ok so I found out I'm pregnant 2 weeks ago. I'm 8 weeks today. I'm only 17. I have no idea what to do. I have been holding this in since I found out. I barely told the father on Sunday. I was avoiding telling him because I knew he would try to rush me in to getting an abortion. I don't believe in abortion and could never see myself getting one, but I also don't see myself being able to raise a baby on my own at my age. I feel so cornered right now because of the father. We talked about adoption but he said he can't live with himself knowing he has a kid out there, and I don't think I can either. I don't know what to do!

My best friend was in your place 10 months ago.. She didnt know what to do either, but she kept her baby and now she has a little girl that she cant see her self with out.

If you feel you cant raise him/her and your boyfriend is no help.. maybe you can giver her up to some one you know... like what we dont on YT..not trying to make you babys sound like a furbaby.. but you get what I mean..

What ever you decied, just remeber ever one on YT is here for you and well help you out any way we can!

[amyd]

Jess, please don't make any rash decisions. You have lots to think about. And your boyfriend will more than likely not be around forever. Adoption is a wonderful thing if you think you go thru with it. Do your parents know?

[RLC12345678]

If you feel strongly about not having an abortion, please don't let the father talk you into it. You will be the one who has to live with that for the rest of your life, not him. There are so many options out there besides abortion. So many people (Villette for example) have the baby at your age and have no regrets. You can always put it up for adoption if the time comes and you decide not to keep it. Just please don't let him talk you into having an abortion.

We are all here for you! (((((((((hugs!)))))))) I am young and have had many friends to get pregnant and have the baby and they are so happy they did so. I have also have had friends who have had abortions and still cry about it years later. If you ever need to talk, please PM me. I am around your age and although I have never personally been pregnant, I have had many many close friends go through exactly what you're going through right now. I would love to help you in any way that I can.

[GORJESS]

Originally Posted by red98vett

I had my 1st son at your age - STAY in school !! I did and graduated when he was 2 months old -

It's a huge huge responsibility - tell your parents and try NOT to be scared - you all need a solution to this and it involves more people than just you.

IF you really want this - it can happen ...but you need to look at it from ALL ANGELS - I missed out on alot by being a young mom - but it was the best thing that ever happened to me - I kind of grew up with my boys and we're super close - well worth all that I missed...but it's not for everyone. Your life is just starting - you're really an adult now - if you had dreams - you can still find them but you will always have to put your child first so think this thru very carefully and be open to all suggestions ....

GOOD LUCK !

I really want to keep it because I don't have the heart to do anything else, or can I live with myself if I didn't keep it. And even thinking about it kills me. It's just the father that is bugging me out because he is so on me getting an abortion.

[GORJESS]

Originally Posted by OLIVIA_KARHIS

My best friend was in your place 10 months ago.. She didnt know what to do either, but she kept her baby and now she has a little girl that she cant see her self with out.

If you feel you cant raise him/her and your boyfriend is no help.. maybe you can giver her up to some one you know... like what we dont on YT..not trying to make you babys sound like a furbaby.. but you get what I mean..

What ever you decied, just remeber ever one on YT is here for you and well help you out any way we can!

I know what you mean. Maybe like an open adoption kind of thing?

[Thorsmomma]

I Pmed you with some...blabing...BUT like I said in the pm, DON'T let your BF interfere with your decisions, this is about YOU. You decide!

[GORJESS]

Originally Posted by amyd

Jess, please don't make any rash decisions. You have lots to think about. And your boyfriend will more than likely not be around forever. Adoption is a wonderful thing if you think you go thru with it. Do your parents know?

Oh no, I haven't got the nerve to tell them yet!

[OLIVIA_KARHIS]

Originally Posted by GORJESS

I know what you mean. Maybe like an open adoption kind of thing?

yeah, where you can pick out the parents.. make sure they can give your baby everything he/she needs and still be able to get updates and see him/her as they grow up.

[RLC12345678]

How do you think your parents will react? Will they be disappointed but understanding? Will they help you raise him/her when s/he is born? Or will they be really upset?

[GORJESS]

Originally Posted by RLC12345678

If you feel strongly about not having an abortion, please don't let the father talk you into it. You will be the one who has to live with that for the rest of your life, not him. There are so many options out there besides abortion. So many people (Villette for example) have the baby at your age and have no regrets. You can always put it up for adoption if the time comes and you decide not to keep it. Just please don't let him talk you into having an abortion.

We are all here for you! (((((((((hugs!)))))))) I am young and have had many friends to get pregnant and have the baby and they are so happy they did so. I have also have had friends who have had abortions and still cry about it years later. If you ever need to talk, please PM me. I am around your age and although I have never personally been pregnant, I have had many many close friends go through exactly what you're going through right now. I would love to help you in any way that I can.

I know, I have heard how much abortion messes with u (emotionally) and I could not handle that. And it seems like the father just doesn't care, like it's so simple for him to just want an abortion and that bothers me so much. And it's so hard to stand up for myself right now because I'm sooo lost.

[GORJESS]

Originally Posted by RLC12345678

How do you think your parents will react? Will they be disappointed but understanding? Will they help you raise him/her when s/he is born? Or will they be really upset?

I know they will be really upset and disappointed but maybe after a while they will be more supportive.

[OLIVIA_KARHIS]

so he rather have you have an abortion,then for him to have a kid "just out there." yeah that is SOO wrong and makes no scent at all. I know its going to be hard.. but you need to tell your parents.. maybe they will be understanding and help you out any way they can. You never know.. My best friends dad is a deacon and she freak out when she found out.. but she took them to the church and told both her parents.. couldnt kill her in a church right? but they where VERY understanding and helped her out any way they could... your going to have to tell them sooner or later.. Its better to get it over with and not have it eating you alive every time you see them.