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cpmarried · 03-27-2006, 05:15 PM

Ok here goes let me know what you guys would do! I have a friend who I am close with, her best friend is also a friend of mine! Now her BF is not as close to me as she is, but i hang out with her too! Now here is the delima! My friends Bf has been cheating on her husband for almost the whole time he has been gone to Iraq! Cheating is a horrible thing, but add on top of that the person that you are cheating on is in a war zone and could die while you are doing that! So here is the problem I am not that close to her, but I love her husband! He is one of the best guys anyone could have marriedand is a great friend, and she is doing this? Do I tell her she has to tell him or I will OR do I stay quiet and let it go! I am just sooooo torn!

YorkieRose · 03-27-2006, 05:23 PM

JMO..No, do not tell him while he is in Iraq..there is nothing he can do about it except worry and become upset..the last thing he needs is to be is distracted right now...there is plenty of time to sort it out when he returns.

sneri13 · 03-27-2006, 05:25 PM

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Originally Posted by YorkieRose

JMO..No, do not tell him while he is in Iraq..there is nothing he can do about it except worry and become upset..the last thing he needs is to be is distracted right now...there is plenty of time to sort it out when he returns.

I agree with Pat don't distract him while he is over there. He needs to stay focused and there is nothing he can do. Have you talked to your girlfriend and asked her WHY?

SWEETPEA · 03-27-2006, 05:28 PM

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Originally Posted by YorkieRose

JMO..No, do not tell him while he is in Iraq..there is nothing he can do about it except worry and become upset..the last thing he needs is to be is distracted right now...there is plenty of time to sort it out when he returns.

i agree with you 100%

could have not said it better

Marie · 03-27-2006, 05:38 PM

I agreed with Pat, don't mention to him while he is in Iraq. I will have your friend in my prayers. It is really disgusting what she is doing and she will get hers soon enough.

cpmarried · 03-27-2006, 05:58 PM

Guys I know not to tell him while he is over there! I guess is should have said that! Sorry for the confusion! I was planing to tell him when he got back (if I say anything at all)! And also I know some people got confused and thought I was talking about Heather L.! I am talking about a friend I made here in Kentucky! But I know her husband more then I do her I have only gotten to know her since he has been gone through a mutual friend! And aslo to answer a question yes I have asked her why and she can't give me anything except "Well he did it to me before"! And He did, but it was before they got married and she forgave him and married him anyway and she didn't have to! So she can not use that as a reason! And I think no matter if someone does it to you, you should never do it back! Two wrongs don't make a right!

alisonJ · 03-27-2006, 07:04 PM

I would stay out of it completely. He will find out on his own. Believe me.

GucciMyGirl · 03-27-2006, 07:10 PM

I agree with Alison stay out of it, you will be the villian regardless how you feel . Do not tell the husband. My friend has cheated on her husband, I told her how I felt it was wrong. To make a long story short her husband found out and now they are no longer together. The truth always comes out.

cribal · 03-28-2006, 06:20 AM

IMO, I think when he gets back then you need to tell your friend that she either needs to tell him or you will. You probly will be the bad person for a while but once the clouds clear then your guy friend will realize that you had his best interest at heart. If you keep your mouth shut and he finds out and then finds out that you have known then you will probly never be forgiven.

JMO

Crystal

doggieluver · 03-28-2006, 08:15 AM

As a person who has been through this I wouldnt say anything if you value her friendship. I however was closer to the husband and I told him and he was on his way to the physic ward so I was there the whole time he was in the hospital. Not a good idea to cause more problems in a already troubled marriage.

03-27-2006, 05:15 PM	#1
cpmarried Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Ft. Campbell, KY Posts: 154	I don't know what to do? Ok here goes let me know what you guys would do! I have a friend who I am close with, her best friend is also a friend of mine! Now her BF is not as close to me as she is, but i hang out with her too! Now here is the delima! My friends Bf has been cheating on her husband for almost the whole time he has been gone to Iraq! Cheating is a horrible thing, but add on top of that the person that you are cheating on is in a war zone and could die while you are doing that! So here is the problem I am not that close to her, but I love her husband! He is one of the best guys anyone could have marriedand is a great friend, and she is doing this? Do I tell her she has to tell him or I will OR do I stay quiet and let it go! I am just sooooo torn! __________________ Paula Proud Army Wife! Supporting Our Troops! Supporting Courtney Skeeter! Me @ Myspace! Last edited by cpmarried; 03-27-2006 at 05:17 PM.

03-27-2006, 05:23 PM	#2
YorkieRose No Longer a Member Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: South Florida Posts: 8,577	Jmo JMO..No, do not tell him while he is in Iraq..there is nothing he can do about it except worry and become upset..the last thing he needs is to be is distracted right now...there is plenty of time to sort it out when he returns.

03-27-2006, 05:38 PM	#5
Marie Mom loves Gucci Donating Member Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: New York City Posts: 6,427	I agreed with Pat, don't mention to him while he is in Iraq. I will have your friend in my prayers. It is really disgusting what she is doing and she will get hers soon enough. __________________ Huggies, Gucci and Marie http://www.dogster.com/?132187 "I have been egged"

03-27-2006, 05:58 PM	#6
cpmarried Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Ft. Campbell, KY Posts: 154	Guys I know not to tell him while he is over there! I guess is should have said that! Sorry for the confusion! I was planing to tell him when he got back (if I say anything at all)! And also I know some people got confused and thought I was talking about Heather L.! I am talking about a friend I made here in Kentucky! But I know her husband more then I do her I have only gotten to know her since he has been gone through a mutual friend! And aslo to answer a question yes I have asked her why and she can't give me anything except "Well he did it to me before"! And He did, but it was before they got married and she forgave him and married him anyway and she didn't have to! So she can not use that as a reason! And I think no matter if someone does it to you, you should never do it back! Two wrongs don't make a right! __________________ Paula Proud Army Wife! Supporting Our Troops! Supporting Courtney Skeeter! Me @ Myspace! Last edited by cpmarried; 03-27-2006 at 06:02 PM.

03-27-2006, 07:04 PM	#7
alisonJ YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Tucson, Arizona Posts: 1,840	I would stay out of it completely. He will find out on his own. Believe me. __________________ Alison--Edith Jones's mother www.edithjonesproject.com

03-27-2006, 07:10 PM	#8
GucciMyGirl YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: Brooklyn, NY Posts: 550	I agree with Alison stay out of it, you will be the villian regardless how you feel . Do not tell the husband. My friend has cheated on her husband, I told her how I felt it was wrong. To make a long story short her husband found out and now they are no longer together. The truth always comes out.

03-28-2006, 06:20 AM	#9
cribal YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Mt. Ulla, NC Posts: 683	IMO, I think when he gets back then you need to tell your friend that she either needs to tell him or you will. You probly will be the bad person for a while but once the clouds clear then your guy friend will realize that you had his best interest at heart. If you keep your mouth shut and he finds out and then finds out that you have known then you will probly never be forgiven. JMO Crystal __________________ RIP My little Lucy Live forever my Lucy Too, Tank and Annabelle

03-28-2006, 08:15 AM	#10
doggieluver My Heart, My Life, My Dogs Donating Member Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: El Paso,TX Posts: 759	As a person who has been through this I wouldnt say anything if you value her friendship. I however was closer to the husband and I told him and he was on his way to the physic ward so I was there the whole time he was in the hospital. Not a good idea to cause more problems in a already troubled marriage. __________________ Jessi and my 4 's SugarBear's Taz Gizmo's Gidget