Slightly pissed off!

[mizzwanned]

I can't believe this. I get a call from my bf's coworkers telling me that my bf is passed out..he drank too many birthday shots(its his bday tom.) and asking me if i can go stay with him and then they will drive us home because they are working and they need to clean up and can't watch him. I can't believe these ppl. I'm so mad right now. grrrrrr I'm mad at my bf not because he drank but because he has no responsibility when drinking. He drinks too much and this is what happens. And he was supposedly working tonight on a party...geez.

[Bianca]

Does he have a drinking problem? I mean to get drunk at a party you're working at . I think you're a good friend and you should advise him to get help if he needs it. I put a limit on myself, I like to feel good, but if I drink to much I act like a moron Tonight I wont drink at all cause I am driving, but people need to learn their limits and be responsible. Hope everything is ok now.
Sorry you had to be put through this

[jeanm1963]

Im mean, I wouldnt go and get him or help him, he did it to himself, Id tell his friends well he's with you guys and now he is your resonsabliity, unless he is seriously injured or going to the hospital, you guys deal with him!! He was obviously NOT drinking alone , they helped him get to that state so tell them he is a BIG BOY, he drank like a fool ,sooooo give him a message and tell him to call me when he is sober!!

[red98vett]

Originally Posted by Bianca

Does he have a drinking problem? I mean to get drunk at a party you're working at . I think you're a good friend and you should advise him to get help if he needs it. I put a limit on myself, I like to feel good, but if I drink to much I act like a moron Tonight I wont drink at all cause I am driving, but people need to learn their limits and be responsible. Hope everything is ok now.
Sorry you had to be put through this

well said. I wouldn't be mad at the people who called you - they very well could have done nothing......Not to sound harsh but people need to be responsible for their own selves - when drinking becomes other people's problems then the person drinking HAS a problem. Good thing he didn't get in a car and drive !!

[bildio]

Is this a new BF or are you back with the old one?

[RoscoesMommy42]

Originally Posted by bildio

Is this a new BF or are you back with the old one?

That's what I was getting ready to ask! LOL

[mizzwanned]

Originally Posted by jeanm1963

Im mean, I wouldnt go and get him or help him, he did it to himself, Id tell his friends well he's with you guys and now he is your resonsabliity, unless he is seriously injured or going to the hospital, you guys deal with him!! He was obviously NOT drinking alone , they helped him get to that state so tell them he is a BIG BOY, he drank like a fool ,sooooo give him a message and tell him to call me when he is sober!!

lol I honestly didnt want to go. I went out of my way to go pick him up in a cab and take him home AND i had to stay with him and babysit. I am pissed of because they his 2 guy coworkers kinda acted like it was my job to do that. I would have left him there but he is the type that doesnt remember anything! it's a problem. He's not an alcoholic but he doesnt know his limits. I won't do this again, that's for sure

[red98vett]

Originally Posted by mizzwanned

lol I honestly didnt want to go. I went out of my way to go pick him up in a cab and take him home AND i had to stay with him and babysit. I am pissed of because they his 2 guy coworkers kinda acted like it was my job to do that. I would have left him there but he is the type that doesnt remember anything! it's a problem. He's not an alcoholic but he doesnt know his limits. I won't do this again, that's for sure

Maybe feeling like total crap today will teach him ?

nah - lots of people don't remember those really BAD BAD days after a night of binge drinking.....they may be great people in reality but can't drink socially.

You have your hands full ...blacking out is scary. I said it before - Thank God he didn't drive.

[mizzwanned]

Originally Posted by RoscoesMommy42

That's what I was getting ready to ask! LOL

same bf..i know you are prob. like and why are you with him?? i know

[mizzwanned]

Originally Posted by red98vett

Maybe feeling like total crap today will teach him ?

nah - lots of people don't remember those really BAD BAD days after a night of binge drinking.....they may be great people in reality but can't drink socially.

You have your hands full ...blacking out is scary. I said it before - Thank God he didn't drive.

i know..thank god he doesnt drive. He is an idiot to put it quite frankly..his parents just called me asking me what happened. He lost a whole bunch of money..i hope that teaches him

[RoscoesMommy42]

Originally Posted by mizzwanned

same bf..i know you are prob. like and why are you with him?? i know

Oh that's ok. I understand. Sometimes you just can't help it. Been there, done that. (Sometimes I ask myself that about my husband! LOL)

[Cha Cha]

Originally Posted by mizzwanned

lol I honestly didnt want to go. I went out of my way to go pick him up in a cab and take him home AND i had to stay with him and babysit. I am pissed of because they his 2 guy coworkers kinda acted like it was my job to do that. I would have left him there but he is the type that doesnt remember anything! it's a problem. He's not an alcoholic but he doesnt know his limits. I won't do this again, that's for sure

I worry about this statement. And, the more you are there to help him out of a crisis the more you are enabling him. I am old! I grew up with alcoholism. I will tell you this, 20 years ago my Dh got arrested for careless driving (he had been drinking, and spun out right in front of a cop), and he had my 2 yr old daughter in the car . When he got to the police station, he was NOT over the legal limit so he was not legally drunk, but he needed a ride. The cops let his buddy take my daughter-which made me even madder! When his buddy called me to go get my hubby, I told him I would be right there to get my daughter but my DH could rot in jail. He had to get himself out. From that point on, he cleaned up his act, and he KNEW I would not get him out of a stupid situation. We have never had an alcohol related incident since.

[mizzwanned]

lol yea we were going to take a break but then it never happened. He's a great guy overall..just needs to grow up. I'm even more ticked off now because he just called me from his job..he went to pick up his money. He asked if i am mad because he coworker told him that I looked like I didn't even want to help him. Well ya think? Did i want to be there? NO! But I'm not about to just leave him there...but they got him in that mess so I feel like they should have taken the responsibility. But of course they make it seem like because im his gf that's my job! And that i have to be all smiles while helping him??! no. I was worried! I get there and i see him on the floor on his back..shivering. His coworker has the nerve to say that i didn't help him, and that he could have thrown up on himself. I'm so mad because he was like that when i got there and they could have made him sit up or something..and put a sweater on him!! I went and got his coat and put it on him, didn't even know where all his things were. That really pisses me off how ppl turn things around. They get him drunk then can't even take care of him

[Cha Cha]

Originally Posted by mizzwanned

lol yea we were going to take a break but then it never happened. He's a great guy overall..just needs to grow up. I'm even more ticked off now because he just called me from his job..he went to pick up his money. He asked if i am mad because he coworker told him that I looked like I didn't even want to help him. Well ya think? Did i want to be there? NO! But I'm not about to just leave him there...but they got him in that mess so I feel like they should have taken the responsibility. But of course they make it seem like because im his gf that's my job! And that i have to be all smiles while helping him??! no. I was worried! I get there and i see him on the floor on his back..shivering. His coworker has the nerve to say that i didn't help him, and that he could have thrown up on himself. I'm so mad because he was like that when i got there and they could have made him sit up or something..and put a sweater on him!! I went and got his coat and put it on him, didn't even know where all his things were. That really pisses me off how ppl turn things around. They get him drunk then can't even take care of him

Why not? It would only take 1 time of leaving him there. You didn't put him there and it is not your job to get him outta there. He would respect you more later on for making him take responsibility for himself, and that is to not let himself get in that situation in the first place. It is plain disrespectful for anyone to think it is your job to take care of him. His friends, maybe, but not you.

[mizzwanned]

Originally Posted by Cha Cha

I worry about this statement. And, the more you are there to help him out of a crisis the more you are enabling him. I am old! I grew up with alcoholism. I will tell you this, 20 years ago my Dh got arrested for careless driving (he had been drinking, and spun out right in front of a cop), and he had my 2 yr old daughter in the car . When he got to the police station, he was NOT over the legal limit so he was not legally drunk, but he needed a ride. The cops let his buddy take my daughter-which made me even madder! When his buddy called me to go get my hubby, I told him I would be right there to get my daughter but my DH could rot in jail. He had to get himself out. From that point on, he cleaned up his act, and he KNEW I would not get him out of a stupid situation. We have never had an alcohol related incident since.

That's good that the situation with your dh got resolved. You did the right thing. I could have decided not to help him and I didn't want to but I care about him. also i know that if i didnt help him his coworkers would wash his brain and tell him what a bad gf i am. It def. is a problem. I also dont know how he would have gotten home because his coworkers live in Long Island and the other had to stay to clean up. I should have left it their problem.
He doesn't drink a lot..like even when all our friends are hanging out he doesn't drink sometimes..it's just that once he starts drinking..at least last night cause it was his bday he just kept going and going cause everyone kept telling him to take more shots. He doesn't know how to say no and that's the problem. I already told him this is the last time this happens..I won't deal with it. It is not an ongoing thing, that is why i decided to help him, that and cause i love him. But if it were something that happens over and over again i would not be there to take care of him. I don't want to be his babysitter