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pepe mint · 03-02-2008, 06:12 PM

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Originally Posted by SladesMommy

I remember my first bra too. I hated it and I cut it up so I wouldn't have to wear it anymore.

Mandee, I just say be honest w/ her w/o giving TOO much detail. There was one book that a family I used to sit for read to their 3 yr old before her sister was born. I thought it was a BIT too graphic. It covered several topics, not just pregnancy. One part of the book even talked about how it was okay and natural to touch yourself down there to make yourself feel good. One day when I was babysitting she asked me to read it to her. I'd never seen it before and started looking at it. I was like

"how about we read the 3 little pigs instead"

OYE!!!!!!

Baby Madeleine · 03-02-2008, 06:16 PM

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Originally Posted by Graleyne

My son was 6 when Olivia was born. We explained both routes to him. We were honest yet age appropriate. After she was born he came prancing in the room and (loudly) asked, "Well, did they have to cut your belly or was she able to be squeezed out your tootie OK?"

You just made me spit coffee out of my mouth

YorkieRose · 03-02-2008, 06:20 PM

LOL...that is priceless...!!!! so funny, but so honest! Tell them the truth in a way they can understand..

hha · 03-02-2008, 06:26 PM

well, it would be much easier to answer, if it were a c-section..then, the Dr would cut your belly open and pull the baby out...boy oh boy, am I glad none of my 3 ever asked me that question...

MyFairLacy · 03-02-2008, 06:30 PM

LOL I'm just glad dogs can't ask questions

Tiggerwit · 03-02-2008, 06:41 PM

Magic stick!!! Ha ha ha ha

I agree with getting the book, you can probably even find it in the library.

I was 9 when my mom had "the talk" with me about how it works. Pretty honestly, I think there was even pictures involved. I never forgot and as a result when all my friends were fooling around in middle school, I was running the other way. I was 16 before I even considered kissing a boy.

Bizzymammabee · 03-02-2008, 07:00 PM

My daughters were 5 and 8 when I had my son and lot of questions came up. We sat down and explained a decent amount of the birds and bees...well hubby did anyhow. I think you should answer a good bit I do remember a good bit of books that made it easy..there are some that are made that are age appropriate for the stages where they are.

kjk723 · 03-02-2008, 07:05 PM

I was violently ill the whole pregnancy with my second son. My 5 year old never asked how his brother came out because he already knew. I finally threw him up... I guess I tried for 9 months to get rid of my stomach ache!!!!

chloeandj · 03-02-2008, 07:09 PM

I just had this conversation with my boys. I think it would be a lot easier to tell a girl. But i told them that girls have a special place for babies to come out of down there. They were pretty satisfied with that accept my 6 year old just can't seem to believe me that girls don't have wee wees so he's pretty perplexed about the whole thing.

adorame · 03-03-2008, 05:19 AM

At her age you know that an honest but discrete answer is best to give. I suggest that you go check out your library and find an age appropriate book that you can read together, at least that is what I have done with my boy's over the years when this has been brought up. Here are a few books that you might want to look into: How Was I Born by Lennart Nilsson ( ages 5 and up) Where Do Babies Come From? by Ruth S Hammel ( ages 6 to 8) When You Were Inside Mommy By Joanna Cole and also How You Were Born by Joanna Cole.

YorkieRose · 03-03-2008, 05:25 AM

I think telling them .."the Tootie opens up and out pops the baby" sounds good..cutting anything open would scare me if I was a child...I remember my kids clued into Yorkie births...sections and "tootie" extractions...Jodi said once after a pup popped out..."she "pooped a puppy"...!

pepe mint · 03-03-2008, 05:35 AM

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Originally Posted by adorame

At her age you know that an honest but discrete answer is best to give. I suggest that you go check out your library and find an age appropriate book that you can read together, at least that is what I have done with my boy's over the years when this has been brought up. Here are a few books that you might want to look into: How Was I Born by Lennart Nilsson ( ages 5 and up) Where Do Babies Come From? by Ruth S Hammel ( ages 6 to 8) When You Were Inside Mommy By Joanna Cole and also How You Were Born by Joanna Cole.

thanks for the info on the books!!!

I'll look into those!

Suzy · 03-03-2008, 05:48 AM

I ran into questions like these when I nannyed and some of the kids' parents were expecting again.

I agree-honesty is best, but since she's 6, you might not have to go into detail.

I also LOVE redirecting the question and saying to them "I would be happy to tell you about that, but first, how do YOU think it happens?" More often then not, they'll answer their own question in terms that they understand, and make you not so embarassed. Talking about a "special passage" where babies come out might be enough. She's 6-you don't have to get technical, and an answer like that might just be enough to satisfy her for now.

You would be surprised at how many kids think the baby comes out your belly button! Lots of little boys think that women "poop" out the baby too-it makes sense, right-you eat food, it's in your tummy, and then you poop, LOL!

Now, when she starts asking how the baby got IN there, (which may spring off the first conversation) you can probably dodge the question by saying something like "Mommy and Daddy really love each other, and decided that we wanted to have another baby in our family. After we made the decision together, a baby started growing in my tummy." That is answering, without giving away too much for a 6 year old. Plus, if she repeats it, it's the perfect answer

Tnyorkiemom · 03-03-2008, 06:05 AM

oh...u guys have made me laugh this morning...and i have not laughed much lately....my girls are now 19 and 17 but when my youngest was born my oldest knew i was gonna have a c-section.....we they were showing the c-section show on pbs one morning...she alwas got herself up at 8 and watched barney...she was 16-18 months....we when i got up to go "pee" for the trillionth time i saw her watching it...i asked her and she says "that is how use baby is coming out right ...i said yes and she looks at me and says....then i aint having no babies......go figure......when she was 8 i told her the rest of the story......she laughed till she almost fell off the side of the bath tub.......3 years later i had the same talk with the youngest....because she came home from school crying because a little girl in her "class" thought she was pregnant because she let her(not my daughter) boyfriend touch her "booby"...so we had the talk....again the laughs and almost falling off the tub.........so so funny...i have never lied to my daughters...answer her questions honestly but only what she ask...dont add anything...when she is ready she will ask more......what a wonderful memory....thanks guys...

011011 · 03-03-2008, 06:09 AM

Honesty is the best policy in a way she can understand at her age. We had lots of farm animals and always had babies born so the kids seen that and I guess I was never asked for they knew how babies came out it was just natural for them. I had 5 kids and only my youngest asked when we were watching a cat have kittens (so is that how babies come out and I said yes and he said that has got to hurt!) I smiled and said yup it does,that was the end of that.
Many parents will lie or tell them something false that is wrong IMO,kids need to learn about having babies,sex,about the way there bodies change in a good way so they are not embarrassed etc and they grow up to know things are natural and that is the way it is.(age appropiate for what you tell them of course).I had a baby at a young age so it has been natural for me to talk about it with my daughter and 3 boys so far (I have 1 more boy to go) in hopes it does not happen to them,I have been very honest and open about things with them. So when things get brought up they will

at me like oh god not again mom we know you have told us .

03-02-2008, 06:20 PM	#33
YorkieRose No Longer a Member Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: South Florida Posts: 8,577	Lol LOL...that is priceless...!!!! so funny, but so honest! Tell them the truth in a way they can understand..

03-02-2008, 06:30 PM	#35
MyFairLacy Donating YT 10K Club Member Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: DFW, Texas Posts: 11,003	LOL I'm just glad dogs can't ask questions __________________ ~Magnifique Yorkies~ Purchasing from backyard breeders, pet shops, and puppymills perpetuates the suffering of other dogs. Educate yourself and buy from reputable breeders or rescue.

03-02-2008, 06:41 PM	#36
Tiggerwit Just me 'n my boys Donating Member Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Murphy, TX Posts: 4,596	Magic stick!!! Ha ha ha ha I agree with getting the book, you can probably even find it in the library. I was 9 when my mom had "the talk" with me about how it works. Pretty honestly, I think there was even pictures involved. I never forgot and as a result when all my friends were fooling around in middle school, I was running the other way. I was 16 before I even considered kissing a boy. __________________ "Be kinder than necessary, for everyone is fighting some kind of battle." Alphy 's Roxy

03-02-2008, 07:00 PM	#37
Bizzymammabee Luvs Lulu Donating Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Queens, NY Posts: 6,931 Blog Entries: 1	My daughters were 5 and 8 when I had my son and lot of questions came up. We sat down and explained a decent amount of the birds and bees...well hubby did anyhow. I think you should answer a good bit I do remember a good bit of books that made it easy..there are some that are made that are age appropriate for the stages where they are. __________________ Lulu will always be in my heart

03-02-2008, 07:05 PM	#38
kjk723 Donating Yorkie Yakker Join Date: May 2007 Location: Pittsburgh, PA Posts: 385	I was violently ill the whole pregnancy with my second son. My 5 year old never asked how his brother came out because he already knew. I finally threw him up... I guess I tried for 9 months to get rid of my stomach ache!!!! __________________ The family!!! Kellie, Malakai, and Ezekial and the doggy better half GiGi and Mosheh!!

03-02-2008, 06:26 PM	#34
hha No Longer a Member Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Seneca, SC Posts: 2,837	well, it would be much easier to answer, if it were a c-section..then, the Dr would cut your belly open and pull the baby out...boy oh boy, am I glad none of my 3 ever asked me that question...

03-02-2008, 07:09 PM	#39
chloeandj Tinkerbell, My Little Flutterpup Donating Member Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Beautiful California! Posts: 6,112	I just had this conversation with my boys. I think it would be a lot easier to tell a girl. But i told them that girls have a special place for babies to come out of down there. They were pretty satisfied with that accept my 6 year old just can't seem to believe me that girls don't have wee wees so he's pretty perplexed about the whole thing.

03-03-2008, 05:19 AM	#40
adorame YT 2000 Club Member Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Ohio Posts: 2,312 Blog Entries: 1	At her age you know that an honest but discrete answer is best to give. I suggest that you go check out your library and find an age appropriate book that you can read together, at least that is what I have done with my boy's over the years when this has been brought up. Here are a few books that you might want to look into: How Was I Born by Lennart Nilsson ( ages 5 and up) Where Do Babies Come From? by Ruth S Hammel ( ages 6 to 8) When You Were Inside Mommy By Joanna Cole and also How You Were Born by Joanna Cole. __________________ Brandy and her love bugs Jeter Axl Yumi Yasha

03-03-2008, 05:25 AM	#41
YorkieRose No Longer a Member Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: South Florida Posts: 8,577	birth I think telling them .."the Tootie opens up and out pops the baby" sounds good..cutting anything open would scare me if I was a child...I remember my kids clued into Yorkie births...sections and "tootie" extractions...Jodi said once after a pup popped out..."she "pooped a puppy"...! Last edited by YorkieRose; 03-03-2008 at 05:27 AM.

03-03-2008, 05:48 AM	#43
Suzy 2 Pups=Double Trouble! Donating Member Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Iowa Posts: 6,581	I ran into questions like these when I nannyed and some of the kids' parents were expecting again. I agree-honesty is best, but since she's 6, you might not have to go into detail. I also LOVE redirecting the question and saying to them "I would be happy to tell you about that, but first, how do YOU think it happens?" More often then not, they'll answer their own question in terms that they understand, and make you not so embarassed. Talking about a "special passage" where babies come out might be enough. She's 6-you don't have to get technical, and an answer like that might just be enough to satisfy her for now. You would be surprised at how many kids think the baby comes out your belly button! Lots of little boys think that women "poop" out the baby too-it makes sense, right-you eat food, it's in your tummy, and then you poop, LOL! Now, when she starts asking how the baby got IN there, (which may spring off the first conversation) you can probably dodge the question by saying something like "Mommy and Daddy really love each other, and decided that we wanted to have another baby in our family. After we made the decision together, a baby started growing in my tummy." That is answering, without giving away too much for a 6 year old. Plus, if she repeats it, it's the perfect answer __________________ Suzy Emma & Milli What's better than loving a yorkie? Loving two yorkies! Milli 's Remi!

03-03-2008, 06:05 AM	#44
Tnyorkiemom Smokey's Mommy!! Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Georgetown Tn Posts: 1,914	oh...u guys have made me laugh this morning...and i have not laughed much lately....my girls are now 19 and 17 but when my youngest was born my oldest knew i was gonna have a c-section.....we they were showing the c-section show on pbs one morning...she alwas got herself up at 8 and watched barney...she was 16-18 months....we when i got up to go "pee" for the trillionth time i saw her watching it...i asked her and she says "that is how use baby is coming out right ...i said yes and she looks at me and says....then i aint having no babies......go figure......when she was 8 i told her the rest of the story......she laughed till she almost fell off the side of the bath tub.......3 years later i had the same talk with the youngest....because she came home from school crying because a little girl in her "class" thought she was pregnant because she let her(not my daughter) boyfriend touch her "booby"...so we had the talk....again the laughs and almost falling off the tub.........so so funny...i have never lied to my daughters...answer her questions honestly but only what she ask...dont add anything...when she is ready she will ask more......what a wonderful memory....thanks guys... __________________ Mommy and Daddy Sugar Freckles Smokey Romeo Ally Niecy Alissia and Ariella

03-03-2008, 06:09 AM	#45
011011 YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: May 2005 Location: minnesota Posts: 1,432	Honesty is the best policy in a way she can understand at her age. We had lots of farm animals and always had babies born so the kids seen that and I guess I was never asked for they knew how babies came out it was just natural for them. I had 5 kids and only my youngest asked when we were watching a cat have kittens (so is that how babies come out and I said yes and he said that has got to hurt!) I smiled and said yup it does,that was the end of that. Many parents will lie or tell them something false that is wrong IMO,kids need to learn about having babies,sex,about the way there bodies change in a good way so they are not embarrassed etc and they grow up to know things are natural and that is the way it is.(age appropiate for what you tell them of course).I had a baby at a young age so it has been natural for me to talk about it with my daughter and 3 boys so far (I have 1 more boy to go) in hopes it does not happen to them,I have been very honest and open about things with them. So when things get brought up they will at me like oh god not again mom we know you have told us .