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soccbydo · 11-15-2007, 07:58 AM

Why is it that a member is only popular and treated nicely by other members IF that member shares all his or her personal information with other members? This is the internet and I think everyone has a right to their privacy no matter how some may pry and try to badger for information, and when they do not get it they become quite unfriendly. I have just observed this.

Cocoa's Momma · 11-15-2007, 08:03 AM

I haven't noticed that....sorry if you've been treated that way. I think most people on here are all friendly

Yorkiekids · 11-15-2007, 08:04 AM

I haven't noticed this, and yes have shared personal information, because I've needed prayers and I know how many people here believe in the power of prayer. I've never been made to feel ashamed of what a write, and that's a powerful feeling to me. If you feel differently you have the right to keep your business personal. I like you, and I'm sure a lot of people here do too.

jp4m2 · 11-15-2007, 08:06 AM

I'm sorry you have that have gotten that impression...

I personally have not felt like I had to divulge personal info...I do see a few members on here who do do this, but it is strictly voluntary on their part....

It's only natural to feel a closer connection to people when we know more about, so I guess the people who are more open would have closer connections to other members....those of us who are more private or are less open would probably have a harder time making those connections because we know so little about them....jmo

scrappysmom · 11-15-2007, 08:32 AM

I havent noticed anyone prying into some ones personal business

,so sorry you feel that why,everyone here is very friendly,and we are like one big happy family

,and we enjoy talking about our furbabys and sometime our personel business.

Nikki+2 · 11-15-2007, 08:33 AM

Hmmm, I haven't found that to be true in the least. I have never really talked much about personal information nor has anyone asked and I feel like I've made tons of friends here and always feel welcome. I think it's wonderful that when members need or want to share they know we will be there for them but it is far from required to be accepted.

BubblPopElectrc · 11-15-2007, 08:37 AM

I haven't noticed that either.

What type of personal information are you referring to? I'm guessing you're referring to things like someone saying a parent died, someone being sick, etc. Things like that are so generic that I don't really find it THAT personal. It's not like a family member or friend would ever find it and know that it was you.

pepe mint · 11-15-2007, 08:40 AM

i don't see that happening. but maybe i have missed something. There is no "popularity" contest going on here. we all share the same passion for yorkies...and that is a common thread. I really don't see how anyone would need to feel popular here. if you don't feel the need to share your personal info, then so be it. no biggie. i don't know much about very many people here...but i like them just the same

some people do like to know where other members are from...even if it is just the state or country...just because we are curious about other nationalities and different areas. but i think that is about the only reason we care where other members are located. and some don't even care that much

tiggerr36792 · 11-15-2007, 08:41 AM

I haven't noticed that either. Perhaps its not what your saying, but how its being taken and comes across. My suggestion is find different ways to say things possibly so they arent taken out of context.

BamaFan121s · 11-15-2007, 08:42 AM

Depends on what you are referring to as 'personal information,' I suppose. Information related to dogs, or personal info outside of dogs, like family, jobs, etc? Also depends on the topic of conversation I guess.

In general, I only give personal info that I don't mind others knowing. As you said, this is the internet and anyone could come in here and read it.

I don't really think people are treated rudely because they don't tell their life story. I am sorry if this has happened to you.

Nikki+2 · 11-15-2007, 08:44 AM

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Originally Posted by soccbydo

Why is it that a member is only popular and treated nicely by other members IF that member shares all his or her personal information with other members? This is the internet and I think everyone has a right to their privacy no matter how some may pry and try to badger for information, and when they do not get it they become quite unfriendly. I have just observed this.

Soccby if you have truly felt "badgered" for personal information, you should report that to Admin. I think by now you can see that is not a typical experience for the members here.

pepe mint · 11-15-2007, 08:45 AM

i also want to add that some of us like to get to know each other...and the new members because it helps us to know that the members are not on here just to stir up trouble and stuff like that. we all try to be friendly and have a friendly atmosphere that others like to be a part of. but again, it is all personal preference. if you don't want to share, just kindly say that you would rather not get too personal...or something like that.

soccbydo · 11-15-2007, 08:45 AM

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Originally Posted by Yorkiekids

I haven't noticed this, and yes have shared personal information, because I've needed prayers and I know how many people here believe in the power of prayer. I've never been made to feel ashamed of what a write, and that's a powerful feeling to me. If you feel differently you have the right to keep your business personal. I like you, and I'm sure a lot of people here do too.

Well thanks hon. I just think this is the net and there is not need to be unfriendly to people whom you dont know. I love this site, it is a great forum and I enjoy it loads and loads, it will just be nice to be welcomed and not shunned.

I do not care nor will I share personal information on the internet more than I have two dogs. That is all I need to share

soccbydo · 11-15-2007, 08:46 AM

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Originally Posted by Cocoa's Momma

I haven't noticed that....sorry if you've been treated that way. I think most people on here are all friendly

I am glad you did. Thanks for posting on my topic

JPop & Taz 2 · 11-15-2007, 08:48 AM

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Originally Posted by soccbydo

Why is it that a member is only popular and treated nicely by other members IF that member shares all his or her personal information with other members? This is the internet and I think everyone has a right to their privacy no matter how some may pry and try to badger for information, and when they do not get it they become quite unfriendly. I have just observed this.

I think I sort of know how you feel and understand what you're saying. I know sometimes I make a post asking a question that is really important to me and get only a few responses, if any, and other posts seem to get pages of responses. It does make me feel a little bad, but, I shake it off, thinking, ok, maybe no one else has this problem, or maybe no one feels like they know enought about my question to answer. Anyway, I try not to take it personal, cause the benefits far out weigh the bad feelings from this site.

I'm on this site everyday and learn something new everyday. BTW, I like you too.

11-15-2007, 07:58 AM	#1
soccbydo YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: EU Posts: 820	An observance......... Why is it that a member is only popular and treated nicely by other members IF that member shares all his or her personal information with other members? This is the internet and I think everyone has a right to their privacy no matter how some may pry and try to badger for information, and when they do not get it they become quite unfriendly. I have just observed this.

11-15-2007, 08:03 AM	#2
Cocoa's Momma YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Hanceville, AL Posts: 542	I haven't noticed that....sorry if you've been treated that way. I think most people on here are all friendly __________________ Meagan and my babies Cocoa and Daisy

11-15-2007, 08:04 AM	#3
Yorkiekids Piper & Sebastian Donating Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: florida Posts: 14,495	I haven't noticed this, and yes have shared personal information, because I've needed prayers and I know how many people here believe in the power of prayer. I've never been made to feel ashamed of what a write, and that's a powerful feeling to me. If you feel differently you have the right to keep your business personal. I like you, and I'm sure a lot of people here do too. __________________ Susan, Piper ,Harley & Suiki

11-15-2007, 08:06 AM	#4
jp4m2 Love my Boys Donating Member Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: w/ my boys Posts: 5,056	I'm sorry you have that have gotten that impression... I personally have not felt like I had to divulge personal info...I do see a few members on here who do do this, but it is strictly voluntary on their part.... It's only natural to feel a closer connection to people when we know more about, so I guess the people who are more open would have closer connections to other members....those of us who are more private or are less open would probably have a harder time making those connections because we know so little about them....jmo __________________ B.J.mom to : Jake J.J. Jack & Joey, momma misses you..... The joy found in the companionship of a pet is a blessing not given to everyone. The two most powerful words when we’re in struggle: me too..

11-15-2007, 08:32 AM	#5
scrappysmom Mommy's Baby Doo Donating Member Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: DesMoines ,Ia Posts: 5,318	I havent noticed anyone prying into some ones personal business ,so sorry you feel that why,everyone here is very friendly,and we are like one big happy family ,and we enjoy talking about our furbabys and sometime our personel business. __________________ mommy to Lizzie, charliegirl Rip Scrappy doo, Rip Sunday.

11-15-2007, 08:33 AM	#6
Nikki+2 I heart Sugar Donating Member Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Florida Posts: 7,373	Hmmm, I haven't found that to be true in the least. I have never really talked much about personal information nor has anyone asked and I feel like I've made tons of friends here and always feel welcome. I think it's wonderful that when members need or want to share they know we will be there for them but it is far from required to be accepted. __________________ "If you have men who will exclude any of God’s creatures from the shelter of compassion and pity, you will have men who will deal likewise with their fellow men." — St. Francis of Assisi, 1181-1226

11-15-2007, 08:37 AM	#7
BubblPopElectrc Kyle Plus 3 Donating Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Washington, DC Posts: 6,929	I haven't noticed that either. What type of personal information are you referring to? I'm guessing you're referring to things like someone saying a parent died, someone being sick, etc. Things like that are so generic that I don't really find it THAT personal. It's not like a family member or friend would ever find it and know that it was you. __________________ Kyle (me), Britney, Brooklyn, and Coral

11-15-2007, 08:40 AM	#8
pepe mint YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: Franklin, TN Posts: 11,145	i don't see that happening. but maybe i have missed something. There is no "popularity" contest going on here. we all share the same passion for yorkies...and that is a common thread. I really don't see how anyone would need to feel popular here. if you don't feel the need to share your personal info, then so be it. no biggie. i don't know much about very many people here...but i like them just the same some people do like to know where other members are from...even if it is just the state or country...just because we are curious about other nationalities and different areas. but i think that is about the only reason we care where other members are located. and some don't even care that much __________________ Anyone who does not know what soap tastes like has never washed a dog

11-15-2007, 08:41 AM	#9
tiggerr36792 BANNED! Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: California Posts: 6,685 Blog Entries: 1	I haven't noticed that either. Perhaps its not what your saying, but how its being taken and comes across. My suggestion is find different ways to say things possibly so they arent taken out of context.

11-15-2007, 08:42 AM	#10
BamaFan121s Donating YT 10K Club Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: Alabama Posts: 11,432	Depends on what you are referring to as 'personal information,' I suppose. Information related to dogs, or personal info outside of dogs, like family, jobs, etc? Also depends on the topic of conversation I guess. In general, I only give personal info that I don't mind others knowing. As you said, this is the internet and anyone could come in here and read it. I don't really think people are treated rudely because they don't tell their life story. I am sorry if this has happened to you.

11-15-2007, 08:45 AM	#12
pepe mint YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: Franklin, TN Posts: 11,145	i also want to add that some of us like to get to know each other...and the new members because it helps us to know that the members are not on here just to stir up trouble and stuff like that. we all try to be friendly and have a friendly atmosphere that others like to be a part of. but again, it is all personal preference. if you don't want to share, just kindly say that you would rather not get too personal...or something like that. __________________ Anyone who does not know what soap tastes like has never washed a dog