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Cocoa's Momma · 10-29-2007, 08:18 PM

My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years and 5 months now. We have plans to get married but, its not official yet. He does not like dogs being in the house and has allergies. He told me tonight that when we get married he wants me to leave my dogs here (with my mom and step dad). Does anyone else's boyfriend/husband not love dogs like you do? If so, what solution did you come up with? Thanks for your help! Oh by the way, I don't need anyone to talk bad about my boyfriend nor our relationship.

grayxie · 10-29-2007, 08:29 PM

I made my bf learn to deal with the fact that my pets will come before him

We've been together almost 6 years, and he is still here LOL!
Anyway yorkies are the dog of choice for peeps with pet allergies, and he is still allergic?

Cocoa's Momma · 10-29-2007, 08:32 PM

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Originally Posted by grayxie

I made my bf learn to deal with the fact that my pets will come before him

We've been together almost 6 years, and he is still here LOL!
Anyway yorkies are the dog of choice for peeps with pet allergies, and he is still allergic?

Lol, my pets are high on my priorities but, not before Kevin. Cocoa doesn't shed but, Daisy does (A LOT).

grayxie · 10-29-2007, 08:36 PM

Any chance of just Daisy staying with your parents? If you still live close by you can still see her.

Cocoa's Momma · 10-29-2007, 08:37 PM

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Originally Posted by grayxie

Any chance of just Daisy staying with your parents? If you still live close by you can still see her.

Yeah, my mom said she will keep Daisy....I'm not going to worry about it right now though because we aren't even engaged; I guess I will worry over it when the time comes. Ya know?

SladesMommy · 10-29-2007, 08:42 PM

well, he wouldn't be my bf anymore if he didn't like dogs.

I love dogs, they are my world and passion in life. I just could never be with a man that didn't like dogs or wanted my dogs to live outside.

grayxie · 10-29-2007, 08:46 PM

Is there any medication he can take for the allergies?

Cocoa's Momma · 10-29-2007, 08:48 PM

Relationships require compromise and I think I can be willing to compromise on some things. Like leaving one or both of my dogs with my mom and sister. I will just have to wait and see how things play out.

Cocoa's Momma · 10-29-2007, 08:48 PM

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Originally Posted by grayxie

Is there any medication he can take for the allergies?

The main thing isn't the allergies its him not wanting dogs in the house. The allergies just add to it.

grayxie · 10-29-2007, 08:53 PM

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Originally Posted by Cocoa's Momma

The main thing isn't the allergies its him not wanting dogs in the house. The allergies just add to it.

That's a hard one then. Has he given any other reason besides the ones you all ready mentioned?

Cocoa's Momma · 10-29-2007, 08:55 PM

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Originally Posted by grayxie

That's a hard one then. Has he given any other reason besides the ones you all ready mentioned?

He just doesn't like animals being in the house (my dad is the same way but, I don't live with him).

grayxie · 10-29-2007, 09:01 PM

It sounds so strange to me, especially since I've had a pet since before I could walk. Does he truly know and understand how much your furbutts mean to you? and that they are not disposable like an old appliance?

Cocoa's Momma · 10-29-2007, 09:03 PM

I'm sure it does sound strange but, we were together for almost 3 years before I got Cocoa and Daisy came after. Before that I didn't have dogs and knew he didnt want dogs in the house and just ignored that fact and went ahead and got them. Its my fault, I knew it would become a problem.

Shadow · 10-29-2007, 09:07 PM

I try my hardest not to be judgemental,but I have to say it,sorry I don't want to offend you. If I were in your shoes and my future husband was already making these demands on me I would seriously think twice about sharing my future with him. He knew this about you from the beginning and I think he should be the one to change,not you. JMO

Shadow · 10-29-2007, 09:08 PM

OK ,DIFFERENT STORY AFTER READING YOUR LAST POST,SORRY.

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Originally Posted by Shadow

I try my hardest not to be judgemental,but I have to say it,sorry I don't want to offend you. If I were in your shoes and my future husband was already making these demands on me I would seriously think twice about sharing my future with him. He knew this about you from the beginning and I think he should be the one to change,not you. JMO

10-29-2007, 08:18 PM	#1
Cocoa's Momma YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Hanceville, AL Posts: 542	Just wondering if anyone else has been in my shoes..... My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years and 5 months now. We have plans to get married but, its not official yet. He does not like dogs being in the house and has allergies. He told me tonight that when we get married he wants me to leave my dogs here (with my mom and step dad). Does anyone else's boyfriend/husband not love dogs like you do? If so, what solution did you come up with? Thanks for your help! Oh by the way, I don't need anyone to talk bad about my boyfriend nor our relationship.

10-29-2007, 08:29 PM	#2
grayxie Donating YT 2000 Club Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Dresher, PA Posts: 2,779	I made my bf learn to deal with the fact that my pets will come before him We've been together almost 6 years, and he is still here LOL! Anyway yorkies are the dog of choice for peeps with pet allergies, and he is still allergic? Last edited by grayxie; 10-29-2007 at 08:30 PM.

10-29-2007, 08:42 PM	#6
SladesMommy Donating YT 4000 Club Member Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: ATX Posts: 4,513	well, he wouldn't be my bf anymore if he didn't like dogs. I love dogs, they are my world and passion in life. I just could never be with a man that didn't like dogs or wanted my dogs to live outside. __________________ GIGANTIC DOG CLOTHES SALE!!! <--- CLlCK!

10-29-2007, 08:36 PM	#4
grayxie Donating YT 2000 Club Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Dresher, PA Posts: 2,779	Any chance of just Daisy staying with your parents? If you still live close by you can still see her.

10-29-2007, 08:46 PM	#7
grayxie Donating YT 2000 Club Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Dresher, PA Posts: 2,779	Is there any medication he can take for the allergies?

10-29-2007, 08:48 PM	#8
Cocoa's Momma YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Hanceville, AL Posts: 542	Relationships require compromise and I think I can be willing to compromise on some things. Like leaving one or both of my dogs with my mom and sister. I will just have to wait and see how things play out.

10-29-2007, 09:01 PM	#12
grayxie Donating YT 2000 Club Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Dresher, PA Posts: 2,779	It sounds so strange to me, especially since I've had a pet since before I could walk. Does he truly know and understand how much your furbutts mean to you? and that they are not disposable like an old appliance?

10-29-2007, 09:03 PM	#13
Cocoa's Momma YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Hanceville, AL Posts: 542	I'm sure it does sound strange but, we were together for almost 3 years before I got Cocoa and Daisy came after. Before that I didn't have dogs and knew he didnt want dogs in the house and just ignored that fact and went ahead and got them. Its my fault, I knew it would become a problem.

10-29-2007, 09:07 PM	#14
Shadow No Longer a Member Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: California Posts: 5,368	I try my hardest not to be judgemental,but I have to say it,sorry I don't want to offend you. If I were in your shoes and my future husband was already making these demands on me I would seriously think twice about sharing my future with him. He knew this about you from the beginning and I think he should be the one to change,not you. JMO