Another Thank you and little update

[red98vett]

I'm trying to not get too mushy but I HAVE to say Thank you again to all you awesome Yorkie people.....

Sunday was the first day of Autumn and also marked one month since I found my husband had died & it feels like just yesterday.

My guilt has been enormous because I woke up within minutes of him passing and keep thinking IF I had known or woken up sooner I could have revived him but I'm trying very hard to move past that. I have no memory of that night other than finding him and maybe that's a good thing but it bothers me that my mind blocked it out...I know people go thru worse in the world everyday but this truly has been the hardest and saddest month of my life. I miss him so much my heart just hurts. BUT - with the support I've received I can honestly say that you all have been a blessing in my life and I truly thank each of you from the bottom of my heart.

I've been trying to answer each and every person who pm'd, emailed & called me.... I also thank those those who sent cards & those who sent donations - you all just blew me away with your support. It's thanks to those donations that I did finally go see a doctor to get something to help the Raw emotion and to help me sleep & it seems to be working - the last 2 nights I was finally able to sleep without crying and laying there dwelling.

Then there's Jeannie and Paula who came to his funeral in Michigan - Jodie who came to the families house after the funeral with heartfelt gifts for the girls (hugs) and also to Jamie and her husband who took such great care of my girls while I was gone for the weekend for the funeral-

To Linda - (fufu fashions) Your visit with food and picking me up at the airport is so appreciated - how can I every say thank you all properly for this ?

My life will change and I'll move on....I know it will get easier in time and for those who asked what my plans are - right now I'm taking it one day at a time - staying busy sorting and going thru our 12 years together because I do feel I'll have to move as financially I don't think I can afford this house. I'm planning to sell what I can and give the rest to the Salvation Army but it's just overwhelming on some days.....Other days I really work hard.

The girls are doing a little better but Cheri has a hard time when I have to leave the house. She was so used to having her 'daddy' here that she just gets hysterical when I have to go out but I'm working with her...Tessa (my cocker) still cries in her sleep but seems to be much better - I think their little sleepover at Jamies (yorkiecrazy) house did her a world of good - she'd been mourning harder than my yorkie girls....She had never left my husbands side when he got sick so she took it the hardest.

the upside is - my youngest son wants to move in with me. He has some personal stuff to take care of but I hope he can move back home with me soon - he needs me and I need him.

There's alot more going on but I don't want to bore everyone - I just wanted to do a post again and thank ALL the great Yorkie People that I've been blessed to get to know online and in person. You've all just been so great I can't thank you enough.....We really ARE a big family and you're all so special to me I just had to do another Thread to say this.

for those that I haven't written yet - it's been hard to be on the computer so I do a little each morning and I HOPE I dont accidentally miss someone - if you haven't heard from me yet - please forgive me....there are some days I can't type but I'm trying really hard to get 'me' back.
Sorry this was so long - but I HAD to say it again - Yorkie people are just the best .... you all have been awesome and I wish I could hug each of you in person.

Thank you again for all your support - I'll never forget it - EVER.

[Superstarkba]

Awe V I am glad that you got to go see a doctor, and were finally able to get some medicine. That would be so awsome if your son moved back it, it will help the both of you guys. As always, you are in my prayers.

Hugs,
Kelsey

[Emmsmom]

Good to hear form you! I was so sorry to hear about your husband. I know having the girls back helps out a lot.Just haivng them there I know means the world. I think your son moving in will bring a lot of comfort as well. Take Care. ((HUGS))

[red98vett]

ps.....any advise on how I can ease Cheri's heart when I leave the house ? She gets almost hysterical and it's really hard to get out the door. They've never been crated and I'm to afraid to put up a gate for fear of it falling on them - but I can't have her trying to run out after me everytime I leave the house. I've tried going out for longer and longer periods of time - but she acts the same whether I'm gone 20 minutes or 3 hours -

Someone said try throwing treats down the hall - but she's already caught on to that trick Chanel will Sit and Stay when I tell her to but Cheri just doesn't 'get it' & gets super upset everytime I have to go out poor baby

I could use any suggestions - she actually got out 3 times and lucky for both of us - stopped at the car ....but I just can't have her doing this.

[Superstarkba]

Originally Posted by red98vett

ps.....any advise on how I can ease Cheri's heart when I leave the house ? She gets almost hysterical and it's really hard to get out the door. They've never been crated and I'm to afraid to put up a gate for fear of it falling on them - but I can't have her trying to run out after me everytime I leave the house. I've tried going out for longer and longer periods of time - but she acts the same whether I'm gone 20 minutes or 3 hours -

Someone said try throwing treats down the hall - but she's already caught on to that trick Chanel will Sit and Stay when I tell her to but Cheri just doesn't 'get it' & gets super upset everytime I have to go out poor baby

I could use any suggestions - she actually got out 3 times and lucky for both of us - stopped at the car ....but I just can't have her doing this.

Do you leave a tv on or something that has noise? where its not completly quiet in the house?

[red98vett]

Originally Posted by Superstarkba

Do you leave a tv on or something that has noise? where its not completly quiet in the house?

My TV is on All the time .....and she has Chanel and Tessa to keep her company. She's just so used to her daddy being home with them when I was out that having NO one home is making her really upset. It's very hard to just get out the door now - I'm so scared one day she'll get past me and head to the street -

IF I had the time and money I'd try Doggie Training School but at this time am watching every penny and trying to figure out my future

[muffinlvr]

V it is so good to hear from you. I can't imagine how difficult this has all been for you but you are a strong woman and you will get through this. I think it's great that your son wants to move in with you. It will be good for you both.

I just think that the outpouring from the people here at YT is amazing. We ARE a family and it's one of the first places I come to in the morning and one of the last things I do before I go to bed. I would feel so 'disconnected' if I didn't have this group. We are blessed.

One of my dear friends lost her 34 year old daughter to suicide 3 months ago and I have witnessed her grieving process. And it is INDEED a process. There are so many ups and downs but she is seeing a glimmer of light now at the end of the tunnel. So hang in there my friend and know that we are here for you during all of these ups and downs, hills and valleys.

God Bless,
Connie

[Superstarkba]

Originally Posted by red98vett

My TV is on All the time .....and she has Chanel and Tessa to keep her company. She's just so used to her daddy being home with them when I was out that having NO one home is making her really upset. It's very hard to just get out the door now - I'm so scared one day she'll get past me and head to the street -

IF I had the time and money I'd try Doggie Training School but at this time am watching every penny and trying to figure out my future

I am soo sorry to hear that. I am PM'ing you something.

[Breny]

Hi V, my hearts hurts for you but I'm glad to see you post I hope your son does move in with you, I know that would be so nice for you.

I'm sorry the girls are going through the hurt too I don't have any advice but hope they heal soon too.

Take care

[ARCHIE]

Good morning V,
Sorry to hear Cheri is having a hard time. Perhaps a piece of clothing from
your late husband in her bed might help her. The scent may calm her down
alittle. It dosen't hurt to try. Hope it helps.
Glad to hear your giving it your best shot and taking one day at a time.
I am also happy your getting your much needed rest at night.
Remember, I'm only a phone call away if you need to talk.
Take care of yourself my friend.

[Lexi Rae]

im still praying for you villette,, i just feel so bad... it saddens me when
people i know are hurting... anything you need, im here for you.
hugs and kisses to you and the babies

[Amber_lv]

I am Glad you are ok and doing better. We miss you a lot. As for the girls i don't have any Advice but give them lots of kisses from us. If you need anything please don't hesitate to ask.

[crystalsmom]

Hi V, when your son comes could you go out when he is there and just take shorter trips when he isn't? I suppose that would work if you decide to work at home but of course if you are gone most of the day I think getting her used to it in small amounts and then gradually increasing it would be the only way I can think of at the moment. I know when I first got Crystal I only gave her a treat when I left so she would look forward to me leaving and it worked but dogs are so different. It will take time for her just as it will for you.

[YorkieRose]

What a wonderful surprise to see your posts this morning. You are missed very much and we understand your need to go slow...
Kiss the girls..I have no clue how to comfort Cheri..I have had two Yorkies loose their moms (Yorkie mom) one attached herself to another adult Yorkie quite fast, the other took a few months to return to her happy self...perhaps your son will be a very positive thing in Cheri's life.

[Yorkiekids]

Dear V is was so great to hear from you. I'm glad the donations enabled you to get to the doctor for some much needed help. We miss you so much. You're kind of like the mom of YT, and we're hurting without you too. I hope Cheri will turn around, but like with you it's going to take time. Prayers still coming to you and yours. Hope your son can move back home.