My girls have started fighting - need help

[Shanatink]

Originally Posted by Rockster's Mom

Oh poor Penny!!! She just wants some lovin's also. Have you tried putting Tink and Chloe in timeout? I know it sounds silly, but it works with Rocky when his gets in trouble. I send him to his corner for a few minutes and everyone ignores him. He gets a clue real quick that what he did is wrong. I figured if it worked with my daughter it would work for him to.

I think this is what Im going to try to do- the time out method. I think what I need to do is start teaching chloe that she isnt the boss and she doesnt own everything becasue I think my spoiling her and constantly babying her and the way I treat her has made her think she is queen bee at this house. I used to think it was cute how bold she is and that she thinks she is head honcho but of course now I think it has led to this and has gone too far and this is my fault because I encouraged it by doing nothing. I think Im going to have to serious change how I am with them. Its just really hard for me becasue chloe is seriously my baby and the love of my life and I have a problem with constantly doting affection on her. She loves on me all the time and I find her personality to be completely irresistable. You guys are going to get mad at me for this, but when I discipline chloe for doing something bad, like anytime I say "no" or "bad girl" chloe will immediately comes to me and give me lots kisses and loves on me like she is trying to apologize and of course I give into her sweet face and affection and I start loving and cuddling with her which I know really doesnt teach her anything other than she has me wrapped around her finger. Im bad and I know it. Its really hard not to- you should see the faces she makes, she is aboslutely the most endearing loving creature and I cant stay mad at her. So ultimately I have just been horrible at staying "firm" with discipline and training on chloe. I think Im the one that is going to have to go to a trainer. If cesar milan ever came to my house he would be appalled with me, Im sure.

[vainchick5]

Originally Posted by Shanatink

I think this is what Im going to try to do- the time out method. I think what I need to do is start teaching chloe that she isnt the boss and she doesnt own everything becasue I think my spoiling her and constantly babying her and the way I treat her has made her think she is queen bee at this house. I used to think it was cute how bold she is and that she thinks she is head honcho but of course now I think it has led to this and has gone too far and this is my fault because I encouraged it by doing nothing. I think Im going to have to serious change how I am with them. Its just really hard for me becasue chloe is seriously my baby and the love of my life and I have a problem with constantly doting affection on her. She loves on me all the time and I find her personality to be completely irresistable. You guys are going to get mad at me for this, but when I discipline chloe for doing something bad, like anytime I say "no" or "bad girl" chloe will immediately comes to me and give me lots kisses and loves on me like she is trying to apologize and of course I give into her sweet face and affection and I start loving and cuddling with her which I know really doesnt teach her anything other than she has me wrapped around her finger. Im bad and I know it. Its really hard not to- you should see the faces she makes, she is aboslutely the most endearing loving creature and I cant stay mad at her. So ultimately I have just been horrible at staying "firm" with discipline and training on chloe. I think Im the one that is going to have to go to a trainer. If cesar milan ever came to my house he would be appalled with me, Im sure.

Why would we be mad when we all do the same thing? When I say No and tell Coco she was a bad girl she comes running, lays on her back while licking my toes, then will jump up and give me ten million kisses. How could you say no to that?? You just can't. Then they get you wrapped around their paw. You don't have to stop being that way, just when they start fighting you need to stay firm with the time outs.Dogs are like humans, you know, going through irritable moments and mood swings. I'm sure by next week you'll be posting about how cute the girls are playing together

[Rockster's Mom]

Originally Posted by Shanatink

I think this is what Im going to try to do- the time out method. I think what I need to do is start teaching chloe that she isnt the boss and she doesnt own everything becasue I think my spoiling her and constantly babying her and the way I treat her has made her think she is queen bee at this house. I used to think it was cute how bold she is and that she thinks she is head honcho but of course now I think it has led to this and has gone too far and this is my fault because I encouraged it by doing nothing. I think Im going to have to serious change how I am with them. Its just really hard for me becasue chloe is seriously my baby and the love of my life and I have a problem with constantly doting affection on her. She loves on me all the time and I find her personality to be completely irresistable. You guys are going to get mad at me for this, but when I discipline chloe for doing something bad, like anytime I say "no" or "bad girl" chloe will immediately comes to me and give me lots kisses and loves on me like she is trying to apologize and of course I give into her sweet face and affection and I start loving and cuddling with her which I know really doesnt teach her anything other than she has me wrapped around her finger. Im bad and I know it. Its really hard not to- you should see the faces she makes, she is aboslutely the most endearing loving creature and I cant stay mad at her. So ultimately I have just been horrible at staying "firm" with discipline and training on chloe. I think Im the one that is going to have to go to a trainer. If cesar milan ever came to my house he would be appalled with me, Im sure.

I think we all know how hard it is to mad a this little guys, but we as mommy's and daddy's have to stick to our guns and lay down the law. It will be hard at first to punish Chloe, but you can do it. Also, since Penny is not getting as much attention as the other two, why don't you sit a special time aside just for Penny and Mommy.

[River]

I have 4 dogs in my house and the Jack Russell,Kansas, thinks she is the queen boss. I do rank over her, but if I happen to not be in the room, she takes advantage. My problem is with her and my Yorkie Indy. The big dogs don't get in her way. My Ger Shep is terrified of her and so is the Golden. But Indy is another story. He won't back down if she goes after him. Mostly she is OK, unless it involves food or toys. All I have to do is say "cut it out!!" loudly and they all go to their respective beds. If Kansas has a bad day and is grumpy with everyone for no reason, she is banned to the other room. I have gates that keep her out of the family room where we are and she hates being out of the loop. When I let her back in she is always more subdued. The other 3 dogs get along great. The German Shep and the Yorkie are the best of friends. Hunter is always really careful when he plays with Indy, they play tugs all the time and Hunter is always gentle with him and Indy can be a real snot sometimes. I think the time out is a great idea. It really works for Kansas.

[TootiesMom]

Originally Posted by Shanatink

I think this is what Im going to try to do- the time out method. I think what I need to do is start teaching chloe that she isnt the boss and she doesnt own everything becasue I think my spoiling her and constantly babying her and the way I treat her has made her think she is queen bee at this house. I used to think it was cute how bold she is and that she thinks she is head honcho but of course now I think it has led to this and has gone too far and this is my fault because I encouraged it by doing nothing. I think Im going to have to serious change how I am with them. Its just really hard for me becasue chloe is seriously my baby and the love of my life and I have a problem with constantly doting affection on her. She loves on me all the time and I find her personality to be completely irresistable. You guys are going to get mad at me for this, but when I discipline chloe for doing something bad, like anytime I say "no" or "bad girl" chloe will immediately comes to me and give me lots kisses and loves on me like she is trying to apologize and of course I give into her sweet face and affection and I start loving and cuddling with her which I know really doesnt teach her anything other than she has me wrapped around her finger. Im bad and I know it. Its really hard not to- you should see the faces she makes, she is aboslutely the most endearing loving creature and I cant stay mad at her. So ultimately I have just been horrible at staying "firm" with discipline and training on chloe. I think Im the one that is going to have to go to a trainer. If cesar milan ever came to my house he would be appalled with me, Im sure.

You are NOT a bad mommy! You are loving... it is so hard with several pups, kinda like several kids... my lab is THE most careful sensitive dog ever and I know what you mean about the big ones knowing what to do with little ones.

I agree with the others... my Tinker is the one who causes problems and she gets a firm, in the face, NO - and then I make her get down for a few minutes.. THEN she comes back with her tail down, begging and gets her love.. I assure her that she is loved but she has to behave.

you are doing the right thing...
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