Should I feel hurt!

[ARCHIE]

I can't believe I am asking for a second opinion on this but I really feel hurt
and insulted. This incident happened three weeks ago and I am still stewing
over it. My brother in law asked me to come for a visit and said I could bring
the "dog". I have never brought him to my sister's before because they had
a lab mix that did not like strange dogs. They had to recently put him down, he was really a love but now Buddy can come down. Here is what he said:
Come on down, bring the dog, you can "TIE" him in the back yard! Is "IT"
trained? They do not have a back yard, it is only dirt and weeds, they only
tied their own dog out there to go to the bathroom because he was to lazy
to walk him. I was so mad I said I had to go and hung up. I never mentioned
it to my sister but it will be a cold day in hell before I ever return I can tell
you that. The nerve! Buddy is cleaner than he is. Should I mention it to my
sister or wait until she asks me why I am not visiting this summer? I'm still
mad.

[Nikko's_human]

You have every right to be upset. How dare he suggest you tie your little dog outside. Is he kidding?

[tpaxton23]

and I sure as heck would not take my dog knowing that he would have to be tied out back. Some people just don't understand that these little dogs are like our babies. I would be honest and tell my sister why I wasn't planning a visit.

[ytsirk27]

It is wrong but I am in a similar situation. My grandmother does not like animals in her house PERIOD!! I am planning a vacation up there sept 1-5 and dont know what im going to do. She has a breeze way in her house that I can keep him out there but I dont like that idea..hes a good dog and really little but shes old and set in her ways!!

[baby03]

Its hard to believe that some people can be so ignorant to the love one has for their pet. I can relate to you. I am not visiting my mother in law this summer because she does not respect Baby at all. She thinks my devotion to her is insane and she threw a hissy fit when she heard I bought Juicy. She hasn't talked to me in 4 weeks. I think that you are right to be hurt. I hope that you can come to a decision. I personally would tell your sister. Maybe he was joking. Yorkies can't be tied up in the back yard. He has to know that much!!

[chachi]

I would talk to your sister about it. Maybe your Brother in law was having a bad day.

[vainchick5]

I personally don't think you should sever your relations with your sister over your dog. You don't have to choose, you should be able to have both. I am close enough to my sister that I would, if I was you, call my sister and say something about you feeling hurt because her husband was inconsiderate to your feelings, that they should all know how special your pup is to you and that you would NEVER tie your dog in dirt outside. That next time you come you will just leave him at home but just wanted her to know that you were really hurt by his actions.

We all love our babies, but we also have to be considerate to other people who for one reason or another, just don't like pets or even your dog in particular. We can't understand that because we are crazy over our babies, but we have to remember that not a lot of people are like us. We have to respect their home and their wishes when we are there. I've come to learn and accept the fact that as cute as coco is, not everyone will welcome her with open arms to their homes, and that's ok. I will not sever ties with those people because they have a right to live comfortably as well. Just keep that in mind. Its kind of like when someone wants to come over with their kid and as a single person sometimes you just wish they could come alone because their kid is annoying or whatever. Similar situation.

[Patti]

I would definately say something to my sister. Just matter of factly say I won't be able to visit you since I cannot tie Buddy outside when I visit like your Husband wants. Leave it at that and see what she says.

[ARCHIE]

Originally Posted by Patti

I would definately say something to my sister. Just matter of factly say I won't be able to visit you since I cannot tie Buddy outside when I visit like your Husband wants. Leave it at that and see what she says.

That's good. I can do that. Funny thing is their dog and I truly loved him,
had full run of the house. He called him his son so he knows what it is to
love an animal. I just don't understand why he would be so fresh to me.
Granted not all his wires are connected at times but we really do get along
nicely which is why I feel so hurt. Thanks for all your suggestions. I love
this site.

[Lexi Rae]

well if i might say, my entire family knows how i feel about my dog and going to there house... if i come, lexi comes.. if lexi cant come, i dont go..in plain english....and thats that.. your sister imsure knows how you feel about animals, especially your, so let it out sweetie and get it off your chest...

[makemepretty]

Honestly, don't take it personally. Your brother in law might not be a pet person. A lot of people think of a pet as just that...a pet. You think of your pet like a child. It probably never even entered his mind that you wouldn't want your little one outside the whole time. Maybe you could bring a fold down playpen to keep him in while visiting?

I'd hate for you to never visit your sister just because you can't bring your dog. Just visit for short amounts of time then. I love my fur babies but I'd never allow my sister to bring her bulldog over in my home. It has nothing to do with how I feel about my sister, I just don't like bulldogs.

[BubblPopElectrc]

I wouldn't take it personally.

Some people just don't have much experience with dogs and I am sure that he probably didn't even know better.

[Francie]

Oh....I would let that one roll off my back...its apparent he simply views dogs in a different manner than you. After all...he tied his own Lab outside...he probably never thought of it as insulting!


Psst....he doesn't know that our Yorkies have "little people" inside.....




Francie

[LuvMySissy]

Originally Posted by makemepretty

Honestly, don't take it personally. Your brother in law might not be a pet person. A lot of people think of a pet as just that...a pet. You think of your pet like a child. It probably never even entered his mind that you wouldn't want your little one outside the whole time. Maybe you could bring a fold down playpen to keep him in while visiting?

I'd hate for you to never visit your sister just because you can't bring your dog. Just visit for short amounts of time then. I love my fur babies but I'd never allow my sister to bring her bulldog over in my home. It has nothing to do with how I feel about my sister, I just don't like bulldogs.

Until I got Sissy, I would never have even thought to ask to bring my baby with me. Now, I don't like to leave her if I can help it, but there are just situations where that isn't going to be the case. With my feelings for Sissy, I would gladly now open my home to others with a smaller baby. But I still wouldn't welcome a bigger dog completely. I think it is much easier to welcome a little one as they don't knock things over with tails, don't slobber on stuff, and most of the time don't shed.

[rnnw62]

Originally Posted by Lexi Rae

well if i might say, my entire family knows how i feel about my dog and going to there house... if i come, lexi comes.. if lexi cant come, i dont go..in plain english....and thats that..

I am exactly the same way!