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FoxxysMom · 06-09-2012, 01:17 PM

Hi, all
It has been about 4 weeks since someone took my Choppa from us. I continue to cruise my neighborhood after work each day and search classifieds looking for his face but in my heart I know he is gone forever. I am praying someone is loving him the way I always will.
I decided to contact the breeder I got him from to inquire about available babies. She has 3 little girls she has offered me first pick of in a few weeks. I am excited about the possibility of having another Yorkie but I also feel as if I'm betraying Choppa some how.
Is it too soon? A coworker said 'So you're replacing your dog?' that is not possible. There will only ever be one amazing Don Juan D'Choppa. I feel conflicted.
Thanks for reading.

spruitt7 · 06-09-2012, 01:33 PM

Only you will know when you are ready. My Macie passed away April 16th and I decided to get another furbaby a few weeks ago. I actually picked her up yesterday.

I got the same type "oh you're replacing her" comments from alot of people. I didnt let it get to me though. You will never forget about your furbaby and you are certainly not replacing her.

Some people say to wait and others say the only way they got over losing their furbaby was by getting another one. Each individual is different. I hope this helps you a little bit and Im sorry about your furbaby.

FoxxysMom · 06-09-2012, 01:43 PM

Thanks Spruitt7. I still have time to think about it but I know that I will have another Yorkie in our lives just not when.

Yorkiemom1 · 06-09-2012, 01:44 PM

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Originally Posted by FoxxysMom

Hi, all
It has been about 4 weeks since someone took my Choppa from us. I continue to cruise my neighborhood after work each day and search classifieds looking for his face but in my heart I know he is gone forever. I am praying someone is loving him the way I always will.
I decided to contact the breeder I got him from to inquire about available babies. She has 3 little girls she has offered me first pick of in a few weeks. I am excited about the possibility of having another Yorkie but I also feel as if I'm betraying Choppa some how.
Is it too soon? A coworker said 'So you're replacing your dog?' that is not possible. There will only ever be one amazing Don Juan D'Choppa. I feel conflicted.
Thanks for reading.

When people make such a commment, they just do not know how much we adore our babies....you have to overlook their ignorance ...and possibly respond with, "No, not 'replacing' any more than people having another child after they have lost one, are replacing the other child...you cant ever replace the one gone, you dont even try.... This baby will help soften the jagged edges of my broken heart, while taking up her OWN space there, right beside the ever present hole left by precious little Choppa."

Yorkiedaze · 06-09-2012, 01:44 PM

I'm sure that the comments of replacing your dog is not out of being sarcastic, but only that your getting another.
You go with your heart, and if it says to let another fur baby have a great home, then that's what you should do. I would suggest never let your baby outside without you.

FoxxysMom · 06-09-2012, 01:50 PM

Ye, Yorkiedaze, he wasn't being sarcastic, he just didn't understand my love for Choppa I think. And I agree, no more playtime without me for either of my fur babies. I have a 4 foot privacy fence and my both dogs are vocal about strangers, but Choppa would bark and play through the back fence with my neighbors dogs so barking while they are outside is common to me. I had a false sense of security that we built a safe haven for them out back.
Thanks again guys. It helps so much to talk about it.

Sweet Girls · 06-09-2012, 01:54 PM

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Originally Posted by Yorkiemom1

When people make such a commment, they just do not know how much we adore our babies....you have to overlook their ignorance ...and possibly respond with, "No, not 'replacing' any more than people having another child after they have lost one, are replacing the other child...you cant ever replace the one gone, you dont even try.... This baby will help soften the jagged edges of my broken heart, while taking up her OWN space there, right beside the ever present hole left by precious little Choppa."

Plain ignorance which should be ignored. When you are widowed and remarry...are you "replacing" your husband/wife? I think I would say, "No, I'm not replacing Choppa, I'm opening up my heart to another dog while I wait/continue to hope for him to find his way home."....After all, wouldn't you take him back if even after you got a new puppy, he appeared?

FoxxysMom · 06-09-2012, 02:00 PM

In a heartbeat!!! Any day, any week, any year I would have my baby home. Not knowing is eating me up.

BellarousasMom · 06-09-2012, 02:12 PM

You're not replacing him. You're filling a void. There's nothing wrong with that. I knew I would need to fill that void when I got Bella and two years late, last June, I was so glad I did.

You are the only one that knows what to do and how you feel. Whatever you do, it's perfect for you and you only.

MY OSCAR · 06-09-2012, 02:17 PM

go with your heart . if it feels right to you then it is.

gracielove · 06-09-2012, 02:38 PM

I would not hesitate to get another dog. I would not give up on your lost one though. If or when Choppa shows up he will have a great friend to play with.

yorkietalkjilly · 06-09-2012, 02:46 PM

You're not replacing Choppa. You are getting another dog because a true dog lover without a dog has a huge void in their life that can only be filled with a dog. Knowing dogs & how they want everybody to be happy, Choppa would want you to have another baby as soon as you think you are up to it. If you are just miserable with loneliness & loss, by all means fill your home with all the love you can in another dog. I waited too long after each of my Yorkie's deaths & I now know that was silly of me & did NOT bring either of them back or show either of them any special honors - I just stayed broken-hearted & lonely longer. Getting another dog won't be disloyal to Choppa - just the opposite. It will show having a dog like Choppa was so wonderful, you can't bear life without another one.

FoxxysMom · 06-09-2012, 02:51 PM

I appreciate you guys so much. Of course I will post when I go to meet the new babies in 3 weeks. They will be 3 weeks on Monday. Of course, if one chooses me, I won't bring her home until 10 weeks. The thing I like about this breeder is her pups never go outside until they go to new home. It was hilarious to see Choppa meet grass......sigh...and rain.

yorkietalkjilly · 06-09-2012, 03:09 PM

Can't wait to hear about the one you pick out! What a good & positive thing you are doing for yourself. I heartily encourage it!

My lil friend · 06-09-2012, 03:28 PM

My heart truely goes out to you. I know that you miss your baby sooo much and that there is a hole in your heart the size of the Grand Canyon. I to pray that he is being spoiled and well loved,no matter where he is.
When my sweet Bunkey passed away suddenly I thought that my world had come to an end (ya I know that he is a dog). But there were only tears ,for days there were tears,and then weeks. How can a little boy take such a big part of your heart with him? There were 5 other dogs in the house at the time,but they were not my Bunkey. I too felt that getting another baby was a betrayal to Bunkey's memory,but I was so unbelievably sad! At my husbands request I began the search,which in its self was healing. Then I fell in love with a picture of a little girl baby sitting with her sisters. I thought about it for a few days and decided to send an email, thinking all the while that they were probably all gone to new homes. There was only one left and it was the one that I fell in love with. So a week later I brought home Mina. The excitement of a new baby was a bit healing as well. But the most healing thing has been having Mina here with me. She is wonderful!! She is NOT Bunkey. She and I talk about the brother that she missed out on,shhh dont tell my family they will think that I am nuts.
So in answer to your question, is it a betrayal,,no. When you decide to bring another baby into your home you will still look for your little boy. You will still pray that he is being loved and cared for. You will still think about him in hopes that he is returned.

I pray that when you do decide to bring a new baby into your home that your heart will begin to heal and that the new relationship that you develop will be sweet and wonderful.

06-09-2012, 01:17 PM	#1
FoxxysMom YT Addict Join Date: May 2011 Location: Gautier, MS USA Posts: 378	Is it too soon for another Furbaby? Hi, all It has been about 4 weeks since someone took my Choppa from us. I continue to cruise my neighborhood after work each day and search classifieds looking for his face but in my heart I know he is gone forever. I am praying someone is loving him the way I always will. I decided to contact the breeder I got him from to inquire about available babies. She has 3 little girls she has offered me first pick of in a few weeks. I am excited about the possibility of having another Yorkie but I also feel as if I'm betraying Choppa some how. Is it too soon? A coworker said 'So you're replacing your dog?' that is not possible. There will only ever be one amazing Don Juan D'Choppa. I feel conflicted. Thanks for reading. __________________ Mom to Shanti, Choppa & Maxximus.

06-09-2012, 01:43 PM	#3
FoxxysMom YT Addict Join Date: May 2011 Location: Gautier, MS USA Posts: 378	Thanks Spruitt7. I still have time to think about it but I know that I will have another Yorkie in our lives just not when. __________________ Mom to Shanti, Choppa & Maxximus.

06-09-2012, 01:44 PM	#5
Yorkiedaze My hairy-legged girls Donating Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: lompoc, ca. Posts: 12,228	I'm sure that the comments of replacing your dog is not out of being sarcastic, but only that your getting another. You go with your heart, and if it says to let another fur baby have a great home, then that's what you should do. I would suggest never let your baby outside without you. __________________ AZRAEL RAZAEL JILLI ANN

06-09-2012, 01:50 PM	#6
FoxxysMom YT Addict Join Date: May 2011 Location: Gautier, MS USA Posts: 378	Ye, Yorkiedaze, he wasn't being sarcastic, he just didn't understand my love for Choppa I think. And I agree, no more playtime without me for either of my fur babies. I have a 4 foot privacy fence and my both dogs are vocal about strangers, but Choppa would bark and play through the back fence with my neighbors dogs so barking while they are outside is common to me. I had a false sense of security that we built a safe haven for them out back. Thanks again guys. It helps so much to talk about it. __________________ Mom to Shanti, Choppa & Maxximus.

06-09-2012, 02:00 PM	#8
FoxxysMom YT Addict Join Date: May 2011 Location: Gautier, MS USA Posts: 378	In a heartbeat!!! Any day, any week, any year I would have my baby home. Not knowing is eating me up. __________________ Mom to Shanti, Choppa & Maxximus.

06-09-2012, 01:33 PM	#2
spruitt7 Donating YT Addict Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Chicago Posts: 944	Only you will know when you are ready. My Macie passed away April 16th and I decided to get another furbaby a few weeks ago. I actually picked her up yesterday. I got the same type "oh you're replacing her" comments from alot of people. I didnt let it get to me though. You will never forget about your furbaby and you are certainly not replacing her. Some people say to wait and others say the only way they got over losing their furbaby was by getting another one. Each individual is different. I hope this helps you a little bit and Im sorry about your furbaby.

06-09-2012, 02:12 PM	#9
BellarousasMom YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Indiana Posts: 793	You're not replacing him. You're filling a void. There's nothing wrong with that. I knew I would need to fill that void when I got Bella and two years late, last June, I was so glad I did. You are the only one that knows what to do and how you feel. Whatever you do, it's perfect for you and you only.

06-09-2012, 02:17 PM	#10
MY OSCAR YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: USA Posts: 4,514	go with your heart . if it feels right to you then it is.

06-09-2012, 02:38 PM	#11
gracielove YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: NY Posts: 6,582	I would not hesitate to get another dog. I would not give up on your lost one though. If or when Choppa shows up he will have a great friend to play with.

06-09-2012, 02:46 PM	#12
yorkietalkjilly ♥ Love My Tibbe! ♥ Donating Member Join Date: Feb 2011 Location: D/FW, Texas Posts: 22,140	You're not replacing Choppa. You are getting another dog because a true dog lover without a dog has a huge void in their life that can only be filled with a dog. Knowing dogs & how they want everybody to be happy, Choppa would want you to have another baby as soon as you think you are up to it. If you are just miserable with loneliness & loss, by all means fill your home with all the love you can in another dog. I waited too long after each of my Yorkie's deaths & I now know that was silly of me & did NOT bring either of them back or show either of them any special honors - I just stayed broken-hearted & lonely longer. Getting another dog won't be disloyal to Choppa - just the opposite. It will show having a dog like Choppa was so wonderful, you can't bear life without another one. __________________ Jeanie and Tibbe One must do the best one can. You may get some marks for a very imperfect answer: you will certainly get none for leaving the question alone. C. S. Lewis

06-09-2012, 02:51 PM	#13
FoxxysMom YT Addict Join Date: May 2011 Location: Gautier, MS USA Posts: 378	I appreciate you guys so much. Of course I will post when I go to meet the new babies in 3 weeks. They will be 3 weeks on Monday. Of course, if one chooses me, I won't bring her home until 10 weeks. The thing I like about this breeder is her pups never go outside until they go to new home. It was hilarious to see Choppa meet grass......sigh...and rain. __________________ Mom to Shanti, Choppa & Maxximus. Last edited by FoxxysMom; 06-09-2012 at 02:51 PM. Reason: Misspelled Choppa

06-09-2012, 03:09 PM	#14
yorkietalkjilly ♥ Love My Tibbe! ♥ Donating Member Join Date: Feb 2011 Location: D/FW, Texas Posts: 22,140	Can't wait to hear about the one you pick out! What a good & positive thing you are doing for yourself. I heartily encourage it! __________________ Jeanie and Tibbe One must do the best one can. You may get some marks for a very imperfect answer: you will certainly get none for leaving the question alone. C. S. Lewis

06-09-2012, 03:28 PM	#15
My lil friend Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: FtWorth,TX,USA Posts: 3,269	My heart truely goes out to you. I know that you miss your baby sooo much and that there is a hole in your heart the size of the Grand Canyon. I to pray that he is being spoiled and well loved,no matter where he is. When my sweet Bunkey passed away suddenly I thought that my world had come to an end (ya I know that he is a dog). But there were only tears ,for days there were tears,and then weeks. How can a little boy take such a big part of your heart with him? There were 5 other dogs in the house at the time,but they were not my Bunkey. I too felt that getting another baby was a betrayal to Bunkey's memory,but I was so unbelievably sad! At my husbands request I began the search,which in its self was healing. Then I fell in love with a picture of a little girl baby sitting with her sisters. I thought about it for a few days and decided to send an email, thinking all the while that they were probably all gone to new homes. There was only one left and it was the one that I fell in love with. So a week later I brought home Mina. The excitement of a new baby was a bit healing as well. But the most healing thing has been having Mina here with me. She is wonderful!! She is NOT Bunkey. She and I talk about the brother that she missed out on,shhh dont tell my family they will think that I am nuts. So in answer to your question, is it a betrayal,,no. When you decide to bring another baby into your home you will still look for your little boy. You will still pray that he is being loved and cared for. You will still think about him in hopes that he is returned. I pray that when you do decide to bring a new baby into your home that your heart will begin to heal and that the new relationship that you develop will be sweet and wonderful.