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bodisat · 01-25-2012, 06:19 PM

I took a few months off from work(offshore work, took a 9-5 , 5 day a week desk job) so that my sweety did not have to bear all the responsibility. Despite what most people around here think, men want babies too.
Anyway, I leave a 4am. I get up at two, get the food out, play for an hour, put him in his crate and go to work..... he does his thing all day with his mom, but checks the door every hour or so. he does not want to nap at all...or eat. just waits for me to come home. when i get home around seven, he plays a bit, eat a bit, then chills.... then mom has to sleep. im exhausted, but i do my best to let her sleep early. he cant stand it. now he wants her to be awake. he just does not want her to sleep now. he wants us both together, awake at the same time. impossible... so how do we deal? mommy and i take turns pretty well, but dickie wants us at the same time. any ideas?
he is a great boy otherwise. he wont rest if im not here, and wont rest when his mom is not around... if we are both here and alert, he passes out between us. his crate, which he loves, does not work...

im hoping normal yorkie parents reply. im at a loss

yorkieusa · 01-25-2012, 06:37 PM

I don't think there is a solution. Mine were always that way, too. In fact, naps are a thing of the past. Kacee always wakes me up before I'm ready to get up.

Of course, if he's not getting enough exercise during the day, such as long, long walks, then he won't be tired.

kjc · 01-25-2012, 07:49 PM

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Originally Posted by bodisat

I took a few months off from work(offshore work, took a 9-5 , 5 day a week desk job) so that my sweety did not have to bear all the responsibility. Despite what most people around here think, men want babies too.
Anyway, I leave a 4am. I get up at two, get the food out, play for an hour, put him in his crate and go to work..... he does his thing all day with his mom, but checks the door every hour or so. he does not want to nap at all...or eat. just waits for me to come home. when i get home around seven, he plays a bit, eat a bit, then chills.... then mom has to sleep. im exhausted, but i do my best to let her sleep early. he cant stand it. now he wants her to be awake. he just does not want her to sleep now. he wants us both together, awake at the same time. impossible... so how do we deal? mommy and i take turns pretty well, but dickie wants us at the same time. any ideas?
he is a great boy otherwise. he wont rest if im not here, and wont rest when his mom is not around... if we are both here and alert, he passes out between us. his crate, which he loves, does not work...

im hoping normal yorkie parents reply. im at a loss

Normal Yorkie Parents... yeah, right! (JK)

Have you tried going to bed together with him? (stay awake till he falls asleep) Many Yorkies end up sleeping with their Moms and Dads.

It may be his 'pack' mentality. It's just not right in his mind if one is missing. When you're both together, this feels best (or normal) to him, and he finally relaxes and passes out.

emykay · 01-25-2012, 08:39 PM

We have only had Louie for a week, and he has already gotten used to us being separated when necessary. I work night shift, so DH said the first night he was up all night searching for me, but as he began to see that I was always coming home, he got used to it. Maybe it will just take time for your furbutt to realize that no matter what time mommy goes to bed, she always wakes up eventually? I am guessing time will help. Good luck!

lovespandp · 01-25-2012, 08:45 PM

When I am gone and Dh is here, Pnut is a nut case, he waits for me, doesn't eat, doesn't really sleep- waits by the door, walks back and forth. If I'm not home and Dh goes to bed, Pnut will sit on my pillow.. and wait for me.

When Dh is gone, Pnut is normal, but he does try to hear for him, and will watch the door on and off.. I don't really think there is anything you can do about it- might be wrong, but I've had Pnut for 4 years and it'S always been this way!

bodisat · 01-26-2012, 05:13 AM

Thanks everyone.
As far as exercise, I can't imagine him getting anymore than he gets right now. He just motors all over the place, all the time. He is so active, we have been waiting for the day we need to give him Karo, or nutracal. He has never even shown a hint.
He just can't stand it when we can't give him attention simultaneously. Its cute and all, but im a bit worried about when I eventually must leave, often for months at a time.
side note. My wife, who was completely opposed to getting Dickie( although she obliged) , asked me if we could add one more. less than 2 months with Dickie and now she is hooked.
thanks for your replies. I guess only time will tell.

AmyD102 · 01-26-2012, 05:27 AM

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Originally Posted by bodisat

Thanks everyone.
As far as exercise, I can't imagine him getting anymore than he gets right now. He just motors all over the place, all the time. He is so active, we have been waiting for the day we need to give him Karo, or nutracal. He has never even shown a hint.
He just can't stand it when we can't give him attention simultaneously. Its cute and all, but im a bit worried about when I eventually must leave, often for months at a time.
side note. My wife, who was completely opposed to getting Dickie( although she obliged) , asked me if we could add one more. less than 2 months with Dickie and now she is hooked.
thanks for your replies. I guess only time will tell.

Believe it or not this might help your situation, since we added Milo they play all day together and then nap together, basically tire each other out! We still have our one on one time with them, for loves/cuddles and training...but I actually find it much easier with two. My mind is more at rest when I'm not home knowing Lola isn't alone. Also Lola is extremely hyper! And before Milo she often drove us crazy because she never stopped!! And now she has calmed down a lot and Milo has even started bringing out some of her motherly instincts.If he falls asleep and shes not tired, instead of running around like a mad dog she will lay next to him and clean him or come snuggle with one of us, its great!

bodisat · 01-26-2012, 07:47 AM

Its definetly tempting. I was shocked when the words came out of her mouth. I had to laugh. if you only knew what I went through to get Dickie here to begin with.

If I had a normal profession, I would not think twice. The idea of putting the responsibilty of two little ones on her while im away seems unfair to me. even if it was her idea

I agree that it would be good for Dickie to have a playmate and seems like it would give him another place to focus his attention besides us 24/7.
He is really well behaved. No trouble at all. I worry more about his overall health I guess, as he tries so hard not to rest unless we are both there and awake.

chachi · 01-26-2012, 08:06 AM

Your little one sounds too smart for his britches. I dont have any experience with anything like that the only thing I can think of is get his used to period without the 2 of you so he disassociates from it but someone else may have a better idea. Best of luck finding a solution

Taryn0405 · 01-26-2012, 08:12 AM

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Originally Posted by chachi

Your little one sounds too smart for his britches. I dont have any experience with anything like that the only thing I can think of is get his used to period without the 2 of you so he disassociates from it but someone else may have a better idea. Best of luck finding a solution

Was going to say, he's a smart little booger. But I agree, two may actually help the sitation. He may just want the companionship and family mentality when you and your wife are there.

Sneaky little dude, huh?

Lil Sis · 01-26-2012, 08:16 AM

Remy has her version of the same problem. Sometimes I go upstairs to watch tv or read in a different room than my dh (only so much nature shows or foodball

). Remy goes nuts... she comes with me, runs downstairs.. comes back to me. The boys just follow me where I go.

They do settle down when they get older. Also, having and extra puppy does help... really!! Remy plays a lot with Bailey. They love each other.
I always said to my dh I was glad I had Bailey when I brought Remy home, he made a great nanny!!! lol

gracielove · 01-26-2012, 08:26 AM

I think some dogs need a job. Something to make their lives have some meaning. Not "meaning" like it would be for a human, but they need a focal point. Your pup has decided that you and your wife are his responsibility.

When I had young kids the dog felt the kids were his responsibility and would not go to sleep until the last one was home and in bed and then he would come up and sleep on my bed. It got difficult for him as the kids got older. Giving your dog exercise would help. A good brisk walk is a lot different than running around the house. It gets the heart rate up along with respiration. It will tire him out if you do it a couple of times a day.

Having another interest would help. A cat or another dog would give him something else to set his mind on. He may think of it as an intruder at first since he is so bonded with the two of you. If your going to add one I would do it before he gets much older and set in his way.

bodisat · 01-26-2012, 05:26 PM

im going to blame all of you when I have two yorkies running around. damn it

yorkieusa · 01-26-2012, 06:46 PM

You will probably thank everyone more than you know.

bodisat · 01-27-2012, 01:51 AM

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Originally Posted by yorkieusa

You will probably thank everyone more than you know.

I'd imagine your right.

01-25-2012, 06:19 PM	#1
bodisat No Longer a Member Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: louisianna Posts: 99	mom vs. dad I took a few months off from work(offshore work, took a 9-5 , 5 day a week desk job) so that my sweety did not have to bear all the responsibility. Despite what most people around here think, men want babies too. Anyway, I leave a 4am. I get up at two, get the food out, play for an hour, put him in his crate and go to work..... he does his thing all day with his mom, but checks the door every hour or so. he does not want to nap at all...or eat. just waits for me to come home. when i get home around seven, he plays a bit, eat a bit, then chills.... then mom has to sleep. im exhausted, but i do my best to let her sleep early. he cant stand it. now he wants her to be awake. he just does not want her to sleep now. he wants us both together, awake at the same time. impossible... so how do we deal? mommy and i take turns pretty well, but dickie wants us at the same time. any ideas? he is a great boy otherwise. he wont rest if im not here, and wont rest when his mom is not around... if we are both here and alert, he passes out between us. his crate, which he loves, does not work... im hoping normal yorkie parents reply. im at a loss

01-25-2012, 06:37 PM	#2
yorkieusa Crazy about Kacee! Donating Member Join Date: May 2005 Location: Kansas Posts: 21,173	I don't think there is a solution. Mine were always that way, too. In fact, naps are a thing of the past. Kacee always wakes me up before I'm ready to get up. Of course, if he's not getting enough exercise during the day, such as long, long walks, then he won't be tired. __________________ Karen Kacee Muffin 1991-2005 Rest in Peace My Little Angel Last edited by yorkieusa; 01-25-2012 at 06:38 PM.

01-25-2012, 08:39 PM	#4
emykay Yorkie Yakker Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: Saint Louis, MO Posts: 74	We have only had Louie for a week, and he has already gotten used to us being separated when necessary. I work night shift, so DH said the first night he was up all night searching for me, but as he began to see that I was always coming home, he got used to it. Maybe it will just take time for your furbutt to realize that no matter what time mommy goes to bed, she always wakes up eventually? I am guessing time will help. Good luck! __________________ Mommy to my little Louie!

01-25-2012, 08:45 PM	#5
lovespandp ♥Momma's Bambino♥ Donating Member Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: Ca Posts: 10,026	When I am gone and Dh is here, Pnut is a nut case, he waits for me, doesn't eat, doesn't really sleep- waits by the door, walks back and forth. If I'm not home and Dh goes to bed, Pnut will sit on my pillow.. and wait for me. When Dh is gone, Pnut is normal, but he does try to hear for him, and will watch the door on and off.. I don't really think there is anything you can do about it- might be wrong, but I've had Pnut for 4 years and it'S always been this way! __________________ "People with nothing to hide don't usually feel the need to say so." Last edited by lovespandp; 01-25-2012 at 08:47 PM.

01-26-2012, 05:13 AM	#6
bodisat No Longer a Member Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: louisianna Posts: 99	Thanks everyone. As far as exercise, I can't imagine him getting anymore than he gets right now. He just motors all over the place, all the time. He is so active, we have been waiting for the day we need to give him Karo, or nutracal. He has never even shown a hint. He just can't stand it when we can't give him attention simultaneously. Its cute and all, but im a bit worried about when I eventually must leave, often for months at a time. side note. My wife, who was completely opposed to getting Dickie( although she obliged) , asked me if we could add one more. less than 2 months with Dickie and now she is hooked. thanks for your replies. I guess only time will tell. Last edited by bodisat; 01-26-2012 at 05:15 AM.

01-26-2012, 07:47 AM	#8
bodisat No Longer a Member Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: louisianna Posts: 99	Its definetly tempting. I was shocked when the words came out of her mouth. I had to laugh. if you only knew what I went through to get Dickie here to begin with. If I had a normal profession, I would not think twice. The idea of putting the responsibilty of two little ones on her while im away seems unfair to me. even if it was her idea I agree that it would be good for Dickie to have a playmate and seems like it would give him another place to focus his attention besides us 24/7. He is really well behaved. No trouble at all. I worry more about his overall health I guess, as he tries so hard not to rest unless we are both there and awake.

01-26-2012, 08:06 AM	#9
chachi I Love My Yorkies Donating Member Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Indianapolis, Indiana Posts: 37,147	Your little one sounds too smart for his britches. I dont have any experience with anything like that the only thing I can think of is get his used to period without the 2 of you so he disassociates from it but someone else may have a better idea. Best of luck finding a solution __________________ Chachi's & Jewels Mom Jewels http://www.dogster.com/?132431 Chachi http://www.dogster.com/?132427

01-26-2012, 08:16 AM	#11
Lil Sis Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: South Florida Posts: 8,008	Remy has her version of the same problem. Sometimes I go upstairs to watch tv or read in a different room than my dh (only so much nature shows or foodball). Remy goes nuts... she comes with me, runs downstairs.. comes back to me. The boys just follow me where I go. They do settle down when they get older. Also, having and extra puppy does help... really!! Remy plays a lot with Bailey. They love each other. I always said to my dh I was glad I had Bailey when I brought Remy home, he made a great nanny!!! lol __________________ Shinja mom to Remy lil Sis to Bailey and Sammy

01-26-2012, 08:26 AM	#12
gracielove YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: NY Posts: 6,582	I think some dogs need a job. Something to make their lives have some meaning. Not "meaning" like it would be for a human, but they need a focal point. Your pup has decided that you and your wife are his responsibility. When I had young kids the dog felt the kids were his responsibility and would not go to sleep until the last one was home and in bed and then he would come up and sleep on my bed. It got difficult for him as the kids got older. Giving your dog exercise would help. A good brisk walk is a lot different than running around the house. It gets the heart rate up along with respiration. It will tire him out if you do it a couple of times a day. Having another interest would help. A cat or another dog would give him something else to set his mind on. He may think of it as an intruder at first since he is so bonded with the two of you. If your going to add one I would do it before he gets much older and set in his way.

01-26-2012, 05:26 PM	#13
bodisat No Longer a Member Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: louisianna Posts: 99	im going to blame all of you when I have two yorkies running around. damn it

01-26-2012, 06:46 PM	#14
yorkieusa Crazy about Kacee! Donating Member Join Date: May 2005 Location: Kansas Posts: 21,173	You will probably thank everyone more than you know. __________________ Karen Kacee Muffin 1991-2005 Rest in Peace My Little Angel