How do I juggle my babies and the new BF?

[Winston08]

So this may be a little off topic but since I know this is a place where everyone loves their furbabies as much as I do, I figured I could get a little advice and peace of mind.

I am in a new relationship with with a guy that I like a lot. It has been going on about 4 months and has gotten serious enough where are now spending quite a bit of time together. He does not have dogs. When he is at my place he interacts with them and shows interest and appears to really enjoy them. They are my everything, my first priority because they are my responsibility and frankly my babies. We live about 45min apart so try to split up the time spent at each others house but to be honest he is here waaaaaay more than I am there. I want to be there but packing up two crate, food and the dogs to go spend the night is so much work. And when we are there I cant relax because am nervous they will pee in the house or get into something. Scarlett is 8 months and still has that puppy destruction from time to time. It's not as if they will be left alone there but I know he is very anal about his stuff and really doesn't want them to "ruin" anything.

Sorry for being so long winded. I just really don't want to see this relationship go by the way side because I have my babies. Any advice??

[orlnurse]

Have you asked him if he minds spending the majority of the time at your place? You could add that you were asking just to be sure, and help him to realize that leaving them home alone isn't an option and bringing them is a lot of work...it may not hurt to add that you wouldn't want any "accidents" at his house.

[Perrella]

Oh, I agree....talk with him about your concerns and see where that takes you.
Let him know you can't really relax as much there because of worrying about what your babies will do. I'm sure he has an idea of how much more is involved for you to come to his place and maybe he doesn't mind coming to your place most of the time anyway.
Just be open and honest....and talk.

[jeanm1963]

Well, just like if you had children , its a package deal!!
Im sure he loves them I mean who couldn't love a little yorkie.
Maybe you could buy one of these and keep it in his closet, garage or under his bed, at least its out of the way and if you want to go to his house you will already have their beds there. With this play yard they can still be with you but confined so they wont pee in his house when you cant watch them.
Id even buy and extra bag of food and put it in a tupperware container at his house for the " just incase you stay there moments" .
Also you might want to say to him , what you just said to us.
That your dogs mean the world to you and you hope they don't ruin what could be a great relationship
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[ArmaniMan]

I agree- just buy some portable crates, extra dishes and food and keep it stored at his house. This way you only need to pack up the dogs when you go.

[mypreciouspups]

I travel all the time with 6 yorkies. And they love to go, so I am not really a good one for suggestions. I can open the door to the rv and they will all just run from our gated deck to the rv. I also have extra of everything for them. So we put on their harness' and off we go.. My hubby does not mind my babies. But they are really mine and I take care of them, doing bathing and everything alone. If I come to bed to watch tv and play on the puter.. I have 5 with me, and Jim has one that stays with him. But he does not keep her clean, again my job. But he knows I would not be able to live with out them.
I say talk to him, for no matter how much you like this guy, if he is not happy in the long run with your babies, you are not going to be.
Good luck...

[Britster]

I recently made a thread about this sort of thing... hehe. For me, Jackson and I are a package deal. I am not sure how I would like it if I felt like I had to walk on eggshells hoping an accident was not made or something was not chewed up (though thankfully Jackson is pretty well behaved, he does have his moments). It may be like when someone starts dating someone with kids... it is an adjustment period. I was not automatically comfortable living with my new stepdad or stepmom, it took time until it became more of a 'natural' living situation, so I assume it may be the same with the dogs. Once he is around them more, I am sure it will be no different than when they are at your home.

[katienme2002]

He seems like a good guy , from what you have described. Just be honest about the situation, and as others have suggested by the supplies needed to keep at his house. If he agrees to that, hes a keeper..lol..

[Sammy Mommy]

I would tell him what you told us here. In any good relationship, you have to be able to discuss things and communicate. What better way of communicating than talking about Yorkies! Good Luck!!

[Teegy]

Well your babies are your life therefore if he intends on being in that life he has to take them as they are.
If he doesn't jog on.
If you have an open forum with him and just ask for his honest feelings and explain how this relationship involves wee furry bums too and he cringes, then you shouldn't waste another minute on him. If he's all for it, knows and understands what he gets if he chooses you, then you are all set.

[yorkietalkjilly]

Tibbe is family so I can go out for an evening occasionally without him, of course, shop, run some errands, but the rest of the time, where I am, he is.