Morbid thoughts

[YorkieLove77]

During my "emotional" time of month (sorry guys!) I sometimes start getting really crazy thoughts about what if JoJo died, or how devastated I would be if something happened to him, or even what am I going to do when that time finally comes (he's not even 2 yet), and I'll cry non-stop. I know it sounds so morbid, but I really don't know why these thoughts enter my mind. I guess it's because I love him so much and honestly my heart would shatter in a million pieces if I ever lost him. Also, I think that since it will probably be inevitable he won't live as long as me that I let my mind think crazy thoughts (this is the thought that comes to mind most often and it literally tears me up inside).

Also, sometimes when he's sleeping I get paranoid thinking he's not breathing so I'll touch his belly or look for movement just to be sure. Am I weird? Am I the only one who does this? I hate having these thoughts, but I can't help it. Oh, in case it's not obvious, I'm a HUGE worrywart.

[orlnurse]

Nope, you're not weird. I do it too Its because we are aware that they won't be with us forever and we just love them so much. That's why I tell them that i love them everyday!

[Mary4]

I used to get those thoughts about my kids from time-to-time, mostly when they were under someone else's control, like a play date. (Do you have kids?)

I have thought about it, to a much lesser degree than you. Charlie is only 5 months old and I love him to pieces. But on occasion I'll have an odd thought, like what would I do, would I get another dog, etc.

I think it's somewhat normal to have these thoughts on a rare occasion. And if it's at your "emotional" time, it's even more understandable. But if it's more than that, then it might be a little extreme.

[YorkieLove77]

Thankfully I don't have these thoughts often, but I noticed that when I do have them it's during that time of month.

I don't have any children yet, so in a way JoJo is like my child. Thankfully, these thoughts pass quickly, but it still disturbs me when they enter my mind. I know subconsciously I'm doing it, but I hate it.

I guess that's the one bad thing about getting a pet and loving it so much...is that deep down we know that one day they will be gone.

[YorkieLove77]

Originally Posted by orlnurse

Nope, you're not weird. I do it too Its because we are aware that they won't be with us forever and we just love them so much. That's why I tell them that i love them everyday!

Yes, I tell him I love him everyday also, and I think I kiss him about 1,000 times a day lol.

[Lovetodream88]

I have really bad depression and anxiety and Callie is what keeps me going and I have had those thoughts before but I try not to think about it because I think I would be in really really bad shape. Also I have woken her up many times because I didnt think she was breathing and then she will sometimes let out a big sigh and look at me like mom for real I was sleeping jeeezzzz.

[DvlshAngel985]

Originally Posted by YorkieLove77

During my "emotional" time of month (sorry guys!) I sometimes start getting really crazy thoughts about what if JoJo died, or how devastated I would be if something happened to him, or even what am I going to do when that time finally comes (he's not even 2 yet), and I'll cry non-stop. I know it sounds so morbid, but I really don't know why these thoughts enter my mind. I guess it's because I love him so much and honestly my heart would shatter in a million pieces if I ever lost him. Also, I think that since it will probably be inevitable he won't live as long as me that I let my mind think crazy thoughts (this is the thought that comes to mind most often and it literally tears me up inside).

Also, sometimes when he's sleeping I get paranoid thinking he's not breathing so I'll touch his belly or look for movement just to be sure. Am I weird? Am I the only one who does this? I hate having these thoughts, but I can't help it. Oh, in case it's not obvious, I'm a HUGE worrywart.

Originally Posted by YorkieLove77

Yes, I tell him I love him everyday also, and I think I kiss him about 1,000 times a day lol.

I do all of the above. I use to be way more morbid than I am now, so I guess I'm getting better? I think I'm just a pessimist and I can't seem to change that.

[Mary4]

There are times when he's sleeping and I'll keep looking at him until he moves or I see his belly moving. (And I was the same way when my kids were infants, though I am guilty of having touched one of the kid's hands when they were babies so they'd move ... and I wonder why they didn't sleep through the night!)

I get very emotional "at that time," and I think a lot of women do. If it was something that was affecting you a lot or you were letting it occupy your mind more than occasionally, then you'd probably be wise to seek out some help.

But these dogs do become like family. Truthfully, I always liked dogs but I never would have been called an animal lover. Even my last dog, who I did love, didn't elicit the same feelings I have for Charlie. I think when you have the right "fit" with your dog, it's a whole different story.

[mom2dogs5]

Okay, you've got two options! First, don't let a precious furbaby into your life, thereby insuring no sadness or hurt......ever. Second, quit waiting for the other shoe to drop! If we were as smart as our pups, we'd learn to live in the "Now"..........right "Now" is what matters, not yesterday, not tomorrow, and all beloved dogs know that..........and can teach us how to embrace that, if we would just watch and learn from them! Enjoy every moment, never mind tomorrow..........it's not here yet!

[kdhawks]

Oh man, I definitely do these things. I make sure he is breathing when he is sleeping. I over analyze his sneezes, coughs, and whimpers. I'm always watching how he walks to make sure he isn't limping or walking funny. If I don't bring him to work with me, I go home on my lunch break to check on him (even if someone is home with him). I'm pretty sure everyone I know thinks I am nuts.

[DvlshAngel985]

Originally Posted by mom2dogs5

Okay, you've got two options! First, don't let a precious furbaby into your life, thereby insuring no sadness or hurt......ever.

I doubt your intention was to sound this harsh, but that was a bit mean. Just a tad though.

Originally Posted by mom2dogs5

Second, quit waiting for the other shoe to drop! If we were as smart as our pups, we'd learn to live in the "Now"..........right "Now" is what matters, not yesterday, not tomorrow, and all beloved dogs know that..........and can teach us how to embrace that, if we would just watch and learn from them! Enjoy every moment, never mind tomorrow..........it's not here yet!

You're right about this though! I actually credit Kaji for me not being as morbid as I was before. I love him so much and he's my therapy. Before I got him, there were days I was so depressed because I can't seem to get a good full time job with some stability. (I keep getting temp jobs) He was my reason for getting out of bed, and while I still get stressed I can't find something permanent, I can't help but laugh when Kaji is digging through my sheets to get his ball I hid. He really is a ray of sunshine.

[Disney]

I actually did lose my baby. In the worst way possible, he was murdered by my ex boyfriend. The best advice I can give you is to not waste whatever time God decide give you with your boy worrying about when he's gone. Instead, enjoy and appreciate the time you do have, so when you do have to say goodbye, there no regrets!

[Roxiesmama]

That is actually why I never wanted a dog. I didn't want to get attached and love it and then have something happen to it. I was so torn when Roxie was offered to me. I didn't know if I wanted to go down that road. I now have a fierce love for my little dog, and I do think about what will happen someday when she isn't around anymore. I also check on her to make sure she is breathing and ok. I sometimes get really mad at myself for allowing this attachment to happen when I swore I wouldn't.

Who knew that having a pet would involve such complicated emotions?

[red98vett]

I know someone who lost a child and he has never ever wanted the attachment of a pet....he flat out told me he'd never get attached to something he knew he would lose eventually and I do understand his feelings

he even has a hard time with my girls and I do know he isnt a 'dog' person so I compensate for him when he's here and keep them away

I can't say I have morbid thoughts about mine but do worry as financially lately I'm in bad shape and that scares me but I try to take it day to day-

my girls got me thru the worst time in my life when I lost my husband just a few years ago - if it weren't for them I don't know how I'd have functioned because I was in a deep dark hole - I HAD to take care of them and while I didn't take care of me - they needed me so I kept going....I still remember how hard it was to BE ME just for them but we went thru alot....losing their dad - moving - me having to work full time - it was a huge change for them -

When this all happend - they felt all my pain and that hurt and caused alot of guilt so I had to suck it up just for them and in the long run.....I believe they saved my life

so be thankful for them - you have a little heartbeat at your feet that loves you no matter what and we just have to love each day we have with them.....too many don't have that luxury or lose their pets so if you have a happy healthy little pet - be greatful and try not to think of the 'what if's

[Disney]

Originally Posted by red98vett

I know someone who lost a child and he has never ever wanted the attachment of a pet....he flat out told me he'd never get attached to something he knew he would lose eventually and I do understand his feelings

he even has a hard time with my girls and I do know he isnt a 'dog' person so I compensate for him when he's here and keep them away

I can't say I have morbid thoughts about mine but do worry as financially lately I'm in bad shape and that scares me but I try to take it day to day-

my girls got me thru the worst time in my life when I lost my husband just a few years ago - if it weren't for them I don't know how I'd have functioned because I was in a deep dark hole - I HAD to take care of them and while I didn't take care of me - they needed me so I kept going....I still remember how hard it was to BE ME just for them but we went thru alot....losing their dad - moving - me having to work full time - it was a huge change for them -

When this all happend - they felt all my pain and that hurt and caused alot of guilt so I had to suck it up just for them and in the long run.....I believe they saved my life

so be thankful for them - you have a little heartbeat at your feet that loves you no matter what and we just have to love each day we have with them.....too many don't have that luxury or lose their pets so if you have a happy healthy little pet - be greatful and try not to think of the 'what if's

V, this is beautiful.