If you have two girls...

[omichka]

... and each one wants to be # 1?

I have one girl Jessica (5 yo) who is way too spoiled. We raise her more like a child, although she is dog. She always with us, we have established family rules and she knows everything. We always plan our trips around our dog.
She is not only spoiled, but jealous also because she knows she is so special (snoby too).

Anyway, as I wrote before, recently we adopted another girl, Polly. Her exact age is not known, I was told she is appx. 3 yo, but, personally, I believe she is much younger. I wanted dog similar age like my Jess, so was thinking 3 yo is OK.

When I saw Polly in shelter, she looked very submissive and timid to me (that what I was looking for), but it turned she is not really. I cannot say she is alpha dog, but definitely more protective that Jess. She has taken over all Jessica's favorite places to sleep, and Jess, as typical "mommy girl" just whining and shows to me if something wrong/asks me to fix that problem.

Polly follows me every second while Jessica is just laying down offended somewhere...

Polly has copied everything what Jessica does to get my attention.

Examples:
Jessica sleeps on pillow on my head, Polly will come and just lay down next, then Jess will move.
Polly has occupated Jessica small dog house (next to my chair), Jessica goes away and whining because she doesn't have any place to sleep close to me. I put Jessica inside the dog house to show "this is YOUR place, don't be afraid", Polly immediately jumps inside and blocks Jessica, and Jessica is afraid to go out.

I try to do my best, do not let any of them to be pushy, however, every time I push Polly away saying "This is Jessica place, you stay here", she looks SO offended.... something like "Why is OK for her, but not for me?!"

Actually, Polly wants to be Jessica's friend, but Jessica just ignors her and even afraid. Polly has tried to play with her, and Jess is afraid of Polly moving toward her. Polly plays like a puppy, and Jess doesn't like puppies.
So play didn't work between them.

Polly wants to be part of our family, she is very good girl, quick learner, but what I've seen so far... I got one more "mommy girl", but not a friend for Jessica, how I was hoping.
If I leave house for a little bit and come back, I see that they do not stay together at all. They run to me from different rooms. They just ignore each other, especially Jessica, and all what they need is MY attention.

So I have a question for those who have been in similar situation:

New dog and older very spoiled one.....
New wants to play, old doesn't care....
New wants to be # 1 and old one already # 1.....

Any of you who have two dogs who are not really friends?

How you handle it?

I do understand that it is so little time from recent adoption (appx 2 weeks), but I already can see some signs....

I hope they will be friends....
Do you think it is possible? If not, how you handle it? Or, it is not even a problem to worry about?

Thanks in advance

PS: Of course, I am not complaining, I just have never been in situation like that, so really interested about other people experiences.

[mimimomo]

I have a boy & a girl, so I can't really help you out...but I hope Jessica & Polly will learn to grow on each other & become friends. I got Momo when he was a pup & Mimi was over a year old back then. She played w/him alot & even slept next to him. Just couple of months ago, whenever Momo went over to Mimi & layed down next to her...she would get up & move. I'm almost wondering if it's hormonal. Now...they're playing w/ea other alot again...& she doesn't move when he comes over to her to snuggle.

[monarchmom]

OMG you have scared me to death!!! I'm suppose to be getting another little girl tomorrow! And the main reason I wanted #2 was so Precious would have a little girlfriend!!! I sure hope this doesn't happen. Maybe it's just that your furbabies haven't been together long enough, I hope that they learn to love each other really soon so you can stop fretting

MOMMY TO PRECIOUS +one (I HOPE)

[omichka]

Oh, don't be scared! I don' regret of anything, I just wish they will be friends...

[littlewhip]

Originally Posted by omichka

Oh, don't be scared! I don' regret of anything, I just wish they will be friends...

They will be friends soon I have 2 girls, My first was my only girl for a long time, When i got molly she was only 12 weeks and karleigh was very jeolous
I was worried i had mad a mistake , It did take about 2 weeks maybe a bit longer for her to come around, Now molly is 2 and karleigh is 6, They are best friends Never fight, They know iam the boss though and there both always on each side of me Wishing you all the best

[tumismom]

Dont worry..they will be friends soon. I have 3 girls and it took them good couple of week to become best sisters ever. They love each other now and play with each other all the time. Girls can be moody though. One day they love each other and next day they get cranky and wanna be by themselves. it's normal..we are used to their moodiness and crankiness..lol

[omichka]

Thank you so much. I hope they will... one day..
When I brough Polly home she had some behavior issues (including snapping/biting), but she is much better now. However, they still can be protective re me toward each other....Sometimes, Jess just wants to be left alone...and doesn't want anyone bother her... she is snoby girl too....

[nishalb23]

I'm reading all these posts about having two girls and it gives me a positive outlook. I have one baby girl who will be a year old next month and will also be getting another baby girl next month....she will be 7 weeks. I am terrified they won't get along. Does anyone have any suggestions on how to make the transition easier? When I went to visit the baby girl and my current baby smelled her on me, she wouldn't come near me. It was like I cheated, lol

[Patti]

I have 3 females and all were brought in at different times and all have different personalities. Pixie and Roxie will pick on Cali who was here first but is very docile. Pixie is like the mother hen and treats e as the alpha personm then there's Roxie, she is full of energy and the instigator in picking on Cali. You can just see her thinkng what trouble can I get into now. But within a short time of bringing in a new one they seem to work it out and will be fighting one minute ansd then all snuggld up together or giving kisses to each other. If one is getting attention from me then all 3 want attention and will climb all over me for it. They also always want the same toy even if there are 3 of the exact same one. So give them time to adjust and work it out. You will love seeing how they interact and I am betting they will end up best friends.