mickey hates me and i am sad

[jennzy]

hello everyone!
i haven't been here in awhile, ive been so busy with school ive neglected a lot of the forums..

so a little refresher background information about this situation

i got mickey as my 9th birthday present from my parents (i'm an only child and ive always wanted a puppy i used to drag my toy puppy around the house and pretended it was a real puppy... and eventually my parents got sick of me doing this and crying they got me a puppy: i am not even sure how i ended up with a yorkie. but i think it was my nanny's idea. i went to a house and picked up mickey and we came home)

anyways, like many children i loved my dog and wanted to cuddle with it and play with it. i guess mickey didn't like that. then i stopped as i got older. but i realized that mickey absolutely hates me! this actually happened since i stopped "bothering" mickey. (i'm 21 now)

normally this is how mickey acts when i'm home

ex. 1 he'll run straight to my mom when we both come into the house (this is even after i haven't seen him for awhile)

ex. 2 my mom and mickey are ont he couch watching tv. i come sit next to mickey, he gets up and moves far away from me

ex. 3 he never comes near me. with the exception, if i have food he'll come, if i don't he avoids me

the things that he did differently that day that made me so upset that i cried (literally!)

ex. 1 when my mom says "ko ja ja" (korean for lets sleep in baby language) mickey runs to her room and hops on the bed and gets himself ready for bed. this time when my mom said this, i ran and lay next to my mom's side. my mom comes in but mickey refuses to come in at all! then from the door he barks and tries to get my mom to follow him. it old my mom that she should and he led her to the couch and jumped up to it and got snuggled as if he were to go to sleep. he was signalling to my mom that they should sleep on the couch cuz i was on the bed.

ex. 2 my mom was out and it was just me and mickey. i woke up and showered and went into my mom's room to blow dry my hair (i didnt bring my blow dryer). mickey was napping inside my mom's walk in closet. i looked and said good morning mickey! he didn't even look up or even opened his eyes. normally when we do this he pokes his head up acknowloges me then goes back to sleep. except this time he didn't at all

am i overreacting? i'm sooo sad that mickey, my dog that i recieved as a birthday present is no longer my dog. this makes me want to buy another yorkie so the new yorkie will become my own dog and loves me instead of ignoring me.

[chachi]

Be the giver of all good things and he will come around. Take him out on walks frequently. Give him special treats. Teach him obedience with treats. Yorkies tend to take more to one person and it sounds like its your Mom but you can win him over

[chachi]

Also does your Mom feed him? If so you start doing it from now on

[Nancy1999]

Originally Posted by chachi

Be the giver of all good things and he will come around. Take him out on walks frequently. Give him special treats. Teach him obedience with treats. Yorkies tend to take more to one person and it sounds like its your Mom but you can win him over

This is so true, I do all Joey's feeding and most of the training and some of the walks, and he's closest to me. When my DIL came over at Christmas, I couldn't believe that Joey sat by her chair, with those little begging eyes. He didn't want food; he wanted her to pick him up! Now she doesn't see him that much, and at first I felt a tiny bit bad, (my first son loves her best too), but she has a way of holding Joey that apparently, he just loves. She crosses her arms and holds him horizontally to her chest, and I don't know if it's hearing her heartbeat or what, but he just loves this, and will fall asleep in her arms. I've tried to duplicate it, but no success so far, and I think he sees me mainly as food mama. So maybe doing something special with him will win him over. Remember, your children or pets can never love too many people; there will always be a special place for you, if you really want one.

[CaamyD]

It sounds like your mom is his "person"- like Chachi said they tend to take to one person more than another- I believe it's usually the person who takes care of them- feeds them, takes them for walks or outside for their business, who harass them, etc...
I had to give my dog to my sister and neices for about a year and half due to living situations and whenever I went over to visit she (the dog) would have nothing to do with me. I just recently took her back and, as far as I can figure, because I am her caregiver now she won't have anything to do with anyone else! LoL
Try to work with him more, I'm sure he doesn't *hate* you. Maybe he just feels neglected....

[chachi]

Originally Posted by Nancy1999

This is so true, I do all Joey's feeding and most of the training and some of the walks, and he's closest to me. When my DIL came over at Christmas, I couldn't believe that Joey sat by her chair, with those little begging eyes. He didn't want food; he wanted her to pick him up! Now she doesn't see him that much, and at first I felt a tiny bit bad, (my first son loves her best too), but she has a way of holding Joey that apparently, he just loves. She crosses her arms and holds him horizontally to her chest, and I don't know if it's hearing her heartbeat or what, but he just loves this, and will fall asleep in her arms. I've tried to duplicate it, but no success so far, and I think he sees me mainly as food mama. So maybe doing something special with him will win him over. Remember, your children or pets can never love too many people; there will always be a special place for you, if you really want one.

LOL I bet he sees you as more than the food Mama. I do think dogs are alot like Men in the fastest way to their heart is through the stomach

[amandawash]

You mentioned that you didn't bring your hairdryer. Does this mean that you have moved out of the house and were visiting? If so and you moved away from him, he is going to become attatched more to whomever he is living with. Also, he's getting old and older dogs just get wierd sometimes.

[jennzy]

thanks for all your replies

yes i did move away i come home once a month for a weekend at a time

i do understand how dogs get attached to the food giver, which is my mom

but he loves my dad too... when im home he stays far away from me as possible. i dont think this is me not being at home because he was like this when i was in high school and living with my parents. i just feel that its gotten worse this christmas. when i do come home, i do feed him my mom lets me give him food so maybe he'll like me more. in the summer when im home for 4 months i take him out at least once, but no change there either

i wish i could read dogs' minds cuz that'd help lol

[DaisyMaesMama]

These are really good suggestions. Hang in there and work on him. He will learn to love you again.

~Kathy