[J_is_my_initial]

I hate to say it, but if you wrote that out, you have given her away. I do not think you would be able to get her back. I personally would not judge someone about their cluttered home. Mine is cluttered somewhat. I do not have the storage that I need. She maybe telling the truth on the carpets. It would be great if my carpets were cleaned as well. But it takes time to rent a cleaner and have time to do that. Just my opinion.